I have a 9 1/2 year old DD who is very disobedient. She lies and tattle tales all the time. She's doing poor in school, due to lack of interest. She said she hates school. She back talks and has been like this for years so it's not something new. I thought she would kinda grow out of it but it's only getting worse. She gets grounded and I have spanked her a few times. I am divorced and her dad has the same problems at his house. I have talked with her countless times if something is going on at school and she always says no. She has only one friend <---which may be from her bad attitude.
Her dad and I have been divorced since she was 3 so I don't think it was our divorce that caused it. I guess my problem is I can't pinpoint what exactly is going on to cause this behavior but I need it stop. Am I being too soft? I need advice on how to control these bad behaviors! She has an older sister who's 16 months older and she is VERY mean to her also. Not just sisters fighting but actually mean words like your Fat, your ugly, etc. HELP!!!!