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I've started drinking. Not just the occasional beer but about 4 times a week having a mixed drink with hard liquor. I say it's to calm my nerves. And it does. But as I send my husband out to get me a bottle before the liquor store closes (which is 10pm here in Tennessee), I can't help but wonder if I'm on my way to becoming a "friend of Bill".

*ETA* so it seems y'all are split on exactly what "alcoholic" means. Apparently it was missed by some that this was kind of a "tongue in cheek" question. I do not believe I'm an alcoholic and I doubt I will ever be. And neither am I a functioning alcoholic. I have a glass of some sort of mixed drink (right now it's SoCo and sweet tea, love it!) at night after my day is done about 4 times a week. It's about 2 ounces of liquor and 4 ounces of sweet tea. Obviously that will not get me drunk. The point isn't to get drunk. Honestly I think the last time I was drunk was my birthday 2 years ago. Yikes. But I appreciate all y'all's comments....but if I came in randomly and didn't read everything....some people assumed I'm getting sloppy drunk every night! Wow.
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by on May. 16, 2013 at 10:48 PM
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by on May. 17, 2013 at 7:10 PM
i do it with cassis and milk sometimes
its nice
by on May. 18, 2013 at 1:44 AM
As I stated in my original post, one drink I make has about 2 ounces of hard liquor in it. Which puts my BAC at around 0.03. Still not legally drunk. So still not A drunk. But thanks for the table! Really interesting :)

Quoting PTBAAMom:


Quoting AlohaTink:

Correct me if I'm wrong but to be a drunk one has to get drunk,yes?

Quoting PTBAAMom:

 No, Alcoholics go to meetings, Your probably just a drunk.  Drunks don't have to get sloppy, and the more you drink regularly even if its one a day, you will increase as time goes buy and if you stop....others will know the difference and you will still be in denial


One Drink is Considered

  • 1 Beer

  • 1 Three Ounce Glass of Wine 

  • 1 Shot or 1 Ounce of Hard Liquor

Drink and Weight Table

Weight Number of Drinks
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9
100 0.032 0.065 0.097 .0129 .0162 0.194 0.226 0.258 0.291
120 0.027 0.054 0.081 0.108 0.135 0.161 0.188 0.215 0.242
140 0.023 0.046 0.069 0.092 0.115 0.138 0.161 0.184 0.207
160 0.020 0.040 0.060 0.080 0.101 0.121 0.141 0.161 0.181
180 0.018 0.036 0.054 0.072 0.090 0.108 0.126 0.144 0.162
200 0.016 0.032 0.048 0.064 0.080 0.097 0.113 0.129 0.145
220 0.015 0.029 0.044 0.058 0.073 0.088 0.102 0.117 0.131
240 0.014 0.027 0.040 0.053 0.067 0.081 0.095 0.108 0.121

You may also want to try our DUI Calculator

People often ask, "How many drinks does it take to become legally drunk?"

That's the wrong question to ask because it presupposes that there are a fixed number of drinks that are acceptable before you get behind the wheel. That's not the case. For example, if you are taking medication, one drink could put you into the "DUI" category. For some people, it often takes very little alcohol to become legally drunk and certain physical characteristics such as weight, gender and body fat percentage can all be factors in the equation. Eating can also affect your outcome - you are more likely to fail a blood alcohol test if you do not eat. So, practically, if you're wondering how many drinks you can have before driving, the best answer is ‘None.' Legally, in all states you should not be operating a motor vehicle with a .08 percent blood alcohol concentration (BAC). In other words, whether or not you consider yourself "drunk," the law considers you to be an offender if your BAC is above .08%.

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by on May. 18, 2013 at 1:57 AM
Yep, didn't sound tongue in cheek to me at all before the ETA......four drinks a week sound like a decent amount for someone that just started this recently ( which you implied)
So , I hope you did enjoy the opinions.
by on May. 18, 2013 at 7:12 AM

Thank goodness, I don't drink but my son is.. I couldn't stand it... another thing is, everytime when someone drinks they get loud and talk different stories ( not straight).. total turn off.. I walk away

by Silver Member on May. 18, 2013 at 7:12 AM

Okay. An alcoholic is a person who needs a drink. Has nothing to do with getting drunk. If you feel that you NEED that drink every night or 4 nights a week, and can't do without that drink, then you ARE an alcoholic. Period. 

You don't have to get drunk all the time, you could never actually get drunk and still be an alcoholic. It's the NEED of the alcohol that matters.

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by Ruby Member on May. 18, 2013 at 7:19 AM

We call this "Self-Medicating"  LOL

Tongue in cheek yes, but with a kernel of truth to it


by Platinum Member on May. 18, 2013 at 7:25 AM

I am editing my last response due to your edit, which is defensive. AND that is a clear indicator of an alcoholic. Go speak with a proffesional.

by on May. 18, 2013 at 7:35 AM

I lived with and alcoholic mother, this doesn't sound like alcoholism.  How many of us go and and the phrase "I need a drink." Is said? I personally do not drink at home but if I wanted to I would.  I save that for Saturday nights when I go out and I have 4 or 5 mixed drinks.  Do I need them, no but I want them and yes it does help my stressful week slip away.  Some people have a glass of wines with dine or after to relax so you do yours with a cocktail some do it with a beer.  You don't have a problem but if you feel yourself starting to "need" or "crave" you might want to back it down but for now no, you are fine.  

by on May. 18, 2013 at 9:33 AM
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If you use it to calm your nerves, I would be concerned. Their are more natural and healthy methods to do that.  Like meditation (my meditation is in pray), Calming oils,and learning relaxation techniques.  Also reevaluating what is making your nerves bad, and making changes.

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