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Why say you want A MAN TO ACT LIKE A MAN.. Then raise your little boys to be whimps and whiners!

Posted by on May. 22, 2013 at 11:54 AM
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Don't you get it?

YOUR RAISING THE NEXT GENERATION OF MEN!

One of these days there is going to be some woman loving your son.. He is gonna need to know how to treat her. You better be showing him what it means to have CHARICTER!

To do the right thing at the right time..

To hold a job. To provide for his family. To be a parent to the children he spawns..

And to think that it will all suddenly happen when he needs it.. He will "learn as he goes" is bull shit!

If you don't teach him who will?

I. MANHOOD IS NOT DETERMINED SOLELY BY PHYSICAL CHARACTERISTICS.

American folklore is full of stories of men who seemed larger than life. John Henry and Casey Jones - heroes of the railroad era. Paul Bunyan with his swinging ax. David Crockett and the Alamo, Daniel Boone and the Kentucky wilderness, and a host of western personalities - all big and strong and physically impressive.

But physical strength alone does not equal manhood.

In his classic novel, Of Mice and Men, John Steinbeck presents a character who has the body and the muscle tone of a man. In fact, he is an exceptionally strong man. But his mind is that of a child. He cannot think and he cannot grasp abstract and complex ideas. His physique alone does not qualify him for manhood.


II. MANHOOD IS NOT DETERMINED BY ONE'S STATUS IN LIFE.

A simple glance around and you know that all the rich, all the leaders, all the powerful and the important are not necessarily blessed with manhood. Some are thieves. Some are liars. Some are cheats. Some are cowards. Some are hypocrites. Some are adulterers.

Bernard Madoff, the former respected chairman of the NASDAQ Stock Exchange, bilked investors out of more than $50 billion and ushered in The Ponzi Economy. He lived like a king in series of billion dollar residences but today exists in the disgrace and bleakness of a prison cell, awaiting sentencing, at age 71.

Preachers and teachers and world leaders whose reputation was formerly impeccable, today live in the aftermath of the crime and shame of moral bankruptcy.


III. MANHOOD IS NOT THE SAME AS PARENTHOOD.

Parenthood can come within moments: manhood is a long, tedious process of growth. Parenthood can be the result of a simple, instinctive, biological act - without thought, or planning, or experience, or counting the cost. But manhood demands thorough application of all the mental processes and all the moral fiber one possesses.



IV. MANHOOD IS A STATE OF MATURITY WITH MARKED CHARACTERISTICS.

Manhood does not whine or whimper.
It does not make excuses for what it knows itself to be.
It does not rationalize. 
It does not blame circumstances. 
It does not blame other people or fate or bad luck or the roll of the dice. 
It does not blame society, either (whatever that may mean).

Manhood does not quibble over the frivolous and the unimportant. 
It does not dream away its days thinking of the uncharted future, nor does it become immobilized with shame for the unchangeable past.

Manhood puts away childish things. It develops attitudes of maturity toward itself, toward others, and toward the basic issues of life.

Manhood shoulders and carries without complaint the full sack of responsibilities associated with maturity. By its very nature, manhood requires the forgetting of self and the acceptance of others. Husbands are responsible for their wives. Fathers are responsible for their children.

Along with proper attitudes and a sense of responsibility, manhood is also characterized by action. A man must be able to act. Opportunities are like arrows upon the wind. They move swiftly. They appear only for a moment and then they are gone. They are not for philosophizing about, they are not for discussing, they are not always for evaluation and calculating.

Opportunities are for seizing. Opportunities are the challenge to manhood.

And only men – real men – are up to their speed and their promise.

The world needs men. The community needs men. The church needs men – real men. Not anitomically correct grown up boys.. with no maturity!

Real manhood is a simple task carried through to completion; 
        the rendering of an honest day's work; 
                the keeping of a trust; 
                        the returning of love unselfishly and without demanding payback.

The rewards of real manhood are myriad - the touch of a child's hand; 
        the soft brush of a wife's lips; 
                the relaxed atmosphere of his own den; 
                        these are only a few of the rewards of manhood.



We need – we must have – more REAL MEN with guts 
                        and backbone 
                                and determination, 
                                              to take a stand in the midst of a gainsaying world

http://www.beyondborders.com/carl06-09.html
                                                  

I don't know about you women.. 

But I long for my sons to be MEN... Not just grown up boys!

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by on May. 22, 2013 at 11:54 AM
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HopeJoyPeace1
by on May. 22, 2013 at 11:56 AM
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20 characteristics of a the ultimate man

1. A man treats women with respect. If you don’t respect women, you’re not a man. Period.

2. A man understands that greater happiness lies in helping others, not helping himself.

3. A man doesn’t stand still while the world passes him by, he continually pushes himself.

4. A man is a leader in at least one aspect of his life, whether this means his family, with his friends or just in general. But he can also follow. The world wouldn’t work if everyone was trying to lead in every aspect of life.

5. You can depend on a man. You can’t depend on a boy.

6. “You cannot teach a man anything; you can only help him discover it in himself.” ~ Galileo Galilei

A man is proud, often to a fault. He doesn’t “change” but rather evolves. Ladies, don’t try and change your man, but let him evolve into the man he’s meant to be.

7. A man doesn’t need to be able to fight or to protect himself and his family physically. But it helps. He does however need to be willing to do whatever it takes to keep his family safe and happy.

8. A man lives for something; a purpose beyond his own personal gains. This can come with time, and with family. It doesn’t always happen right away.

9. “Many of the greatest accomplishments of the world were accomplished by tired and discouraged men who kept on working.”

A man gets depressed, he gets sad, he thinks about quitting and folding, but he never does. He pushes through adversity.

10. “When a man points a finger at someone else, he should remember that four of his fingers are pointing at himself.” ~ Louis Nizer

A man has faults. It’s important to understand this.

11. A man can laugh at himself.

12. A man takes pride in how he looks and lives his life. He’s not ashamed by who he is, what he does or how he looks, even if he’s trying to change one of the aforementioned.

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13. “Young men want to be faithful, and are not; old men want to be faithless, and cannot.” ~ Oscar Wilde

Men learn what is truly important over time. If they’re lucky, they’ll have a sense of it early on.

14. “How can a woman be expected to be happy with a man who insists on treating her as if she were a perfectly normal human being.” ~ Oscar Wilde

If a man finds someone special, he doesn’t treat her like she’s everyone else.

15. A man has fears, but he isn’t ruled by them.

16. A man learns from his mistakes. Although he might take a few cracks at it.

17. A man does what is necessary. Even if it’s the hardest decision, or the most unpopular one.

18. A man can appreciate the greatness that is ‘The Gladiator’.

19. A man thrives on competition.

20. “For a man to achieve all that is expected of him, he must regard himself greater than he is.” ~ Johann Wolfgang

http://www.chadhowsefitness.com/blog/2011/01/20-characteristics-of-a-real-man/

MotherLady
by Bronze Member on May. 22, 2013 at 1:32 PM
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I don't think I've ever caused a spin off before...
HopeJoyPeace1
by on May. 22, 2013 at 3:30 PM

BUMP!

shaunaleigh418
by Platinum Member on May. 22, 2013 at 3:35 PM
TL;DR
dandylynes
by Gold Member on May. 22, 2013 at 3:49 PM
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Bump for you - I fear for future generations if we keep going down this road.

auntangelofsix
by Silver Member on May. 22, 2013 at 3:54 PM
Bump
redbutterfly666
by Silver Member on May. 22, 2013 at 3:55 PM

to long dont care enough

HopeJoyPeace1
by on May. 22, 2013 at 4:13 PM
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Quoting redbutterfly666:

to long dont care enough

WOW..

Well atleast your honest enough to say it out loud..

You don't care enough for future generations..

I hope that's cause you don't have sons...

But If you do have daughters.. What kind of STEP-Son are you gonna get? 

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redbutterfly666
by Silver Member on May. 22, 2013 at 4:15 PM
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Quoting HopeJoyPeace1:


Quoting redbutterfly666:

to long dont care enough

WOW..

Well atleast your honest enough to say it out loud..

You don't care enough for future generations..

I hope that's cause you don't have sons...

But If you do have daughters.. What kind of STEP-Son are you gonna get? 

i have a son, i just dont care enough to read your post thats what i meant dear

soccermomma72
by on May. 22, 2013 at 4:17 PM

My husband is raising our sons to be real men by his example...he is a real man!

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