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Child abuse! What is it.. and I have a tip for you that will let you vent when you wanna spaz!

Posted by on May. 23, 2013 at 3:27 PM
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Forms of Child Abuse

Physical abuse

Any non-accidental injury to a child. This includes hitting, kicking, slapping, shaking, burning, pinching, hair pulling, biting, choking, throwing, shoving, whipping, and paddling.

Sexual abuse

Any sexual act between an adult and child. This includes fondling, penetration, intercourse, exploitation, pornography, exhibitionism, child prostitution, group sex, oral sex, or forced observation of sexual acts.

Neglect

Failure to provide for a child’s physical needs. This includes lack of supervision, inappropriate housing or shelter, inadequate provision of food and water, inappropriate clothing for season or weather, abandonment, denial of medical care and inadequate hygiene.

Emotional abuse

Any attitude or behavior which interferes with a child’s mental health or social development. This includes yelling, screaming, name-calling, shaming, negative comparisons to others, telling them they are “bad, no good, worthless” or “a mistake.” It also includes the failure to provide the affection and support necessary for the development of a child’s emotional, social, physical and intellectual well-being. This includes ignoring, lack of appropriate physical affection (hugs), not saying “I love you,” withdrawal of attention, lack of praise and lack of positive reinforcement.


                  

What to expect when calling the Hotline

When calling 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453), a qualified crisis counselor will answer and assist you, if you:

  • Need help and want to talk to a counselor.
  • Are in physical or emotional crisis and need support and encouragement
  • Connect you to the best possible resources in your area.
  • Have questions about the signs of child abuse.
  • Need to find out how to report known or suspected abuse.
  • Have questions about the reporting process and what you might expect through the process.
  • Want to learn about Childhelp programs that will address you or your child’s needs.
  • Want to learn about resources available to parents, grandparents & caregivers.
  • Need emotional support as survivor of abuse.
  • Want a referral to an agency, counseling or other services near where you live.
  • Want literature mailed to you.(Allow two weeks for delivery via the U.S. Postal Service.)
  • Want information on how to make a donation to Childhelp.

Childhelp crisis counselors cannot come to the home where the abuse is happening and take away the child or teen who is in danger of being hurt and put them in a new home.

The Childhelp Hotline crisis counselors can’t make the child abuse report for you, but we are here to help you through it.


WHY AM I POSTING THIS??

Well until today I didn't even know this existed!

And I know that there are alot of moms who do things cause they are stressed and no one will just listen to them.. They think if they ask for help they will be turned in to CHILD PROTECTIVE CUSTODY and lose their kids.. 

And so they do nothing and keep behaving in harmful ways towards their own children..AND THEN HATE THEMSELVES FOR DOING IT!

I am a woman who as a child had a mother was just like that.

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by on May. 23, 2013 at 3:27 PM
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MrsKaufold1990
by on May. 23, 2013 at 3:29 PM
Well paddling isny considered abuse.

As long as its on a clothed bottom with an open hand.
HopeJoyPeace1
by on May. 23, 2013 at 3:31 PM

That's not true!

If you paddle your child even if they are clothed.. and even if you use an open hand.. 

If you leave a mark.. IT IS CONSIDERED ABUSE!

No spanking isn't automatically abuse.. But it can become abuse.. if you do it too hard, too much or do it in such a ways as to inflict mental and or emotional damage to a child..

Quoting MrsKaufold1990:

Well paddling isny considered abuse.

As long as its on a clothed bottom with an open hand.

Click this siggy to check out my new BLOG!

MrsKaufold1990
by on May. 23, 2013 at 3:40 PM
Lol okay.


Quoting HopeJoyPeace1:

That's not true!

If you paddle your child even if they are clothed.. and even if you use an open hand.. 

If you leave a mark.. IT IS CONSIDERED ABUSE!

No spanking isn't automatically abuse.. But it can become abuse.. if you do it too hard, too much or do it in such a ways as to inflict mental and or emotional damage to a child..

Quoting MrsKaufold1990:

Well paddling isny considered abuse.



As long as its on a clothed bottom with an open hand.

Rachael-Dawn
by Bronze Member on May. 23, 2013 at 3:52 PM
Lol I agree with a lot of this but I am so sick of people bitching about people who spank their kids bottoms it not even funny. When you can tell me your story of how messed up and abused you were as a child I would love to hear it. If I had just gotten my rear end reddened a bit I would have been grateful. My kids are happy and healthy. Yes, they get a spanking every now and again. They arr not seriously damaged.

Quoting MrsKaufold1990:

Lol okay.




Quoting HopeJoyPeace1:

That's not true!

If you paddle your child even if they are clothed.. and even if you use an open hand.. 

If you leave a mark.. IT IS CONSIDERED ABUSE!

No spanking isn't automatically abuse.. But it can become abuse.. if you do it too hard, too much or do it in such a ways as to inflict mental and or emotional damage to a child..

Quoting MrsKaufold1990:

Well paddling isny considered abuse.





As long as its on a clothed bottom with an open hand.

MrsKaufold1990
by on May. 23, 2013 at 3:54 PM
1 mom liked this
I was spanked as a child.

Did no harm


Quoting Rachael-Dawn:

Lol I agree with a lot of this but I am so sick of people bitching about people who spank their kids bottoms it not even funny. When you can tell me your story of how messed up and abused you were as a child I would love to hear it. If I had just gotten my rear end reddened a bit I would have been grateful. My kids are happy and healthy. Yes, they get a spanking every now and again. They arr not seriously damaged.



Quoting MrsKaufold1990:

Lol okay.






Quoting HopeJoyPeace1:

That's not true!

If you paddle your child even if they are clothed.. and even if you use an open hand.. 

If you leave a mark.. IT IS CONSIDERED ABUSE!

No spanking isn't automatically abuse.. But it can become abuse.. if you do it too hard, too much or do it in such a ways as to inflict mental and or emotional damage to a child..

Quoting MrsKaufold1990:

Well paddling isny considered abuse.







As long as its on a clothed bottom with an open hand.


Rachael-Dawn
by Bronze Member on May. 23, 2013 at 3:55 PM
Are you "emotionally damaged"?

Quoting MrsKaufold1990:

I was spanked as a child.



Did no harm




Quoting Rachael-Dawn:

Lol I agree with a lot of this but I am so sick of people bitching about people who spank their kids bottoms it not even funny. When you can tell me your story of how messed up and abused you were as a child I would love to hear it. If I had just gotten my rear end reddened a bit I would have been grateful. My kids are happy and healthy. Yes, they get a spanking every now and again. They arr not seriously damaged.





Quoting MrsKaufold1990:

Lol okay.








Quoting HopeJoyPeace1:

That's not true!

If you paddle your child even if they are clothed.. and even if you use an open hand.. 

If you leave a mark.. IT IS CONSIDERED ABUSE!

No spanking isn't automatically abuse.. But it can become abuse.. if you do it too hard, too much or do it in such a ways as to inflict mental and or emotional damage to a child..

Quoting MrsKaufold1990:

Well paddling isny considered abuse.









As long as its on a clothed bottom with an open hand.


RADmomma
by on May. 23, 2013 at 3:57 PM
Thank you for posting this.
kansasmom1978
by on May. 23, 2013 at 3:57 PM

Paddling/spanking is not abuse. Althought from the private message I got earlier I found that my idea of spanking is by no means abuse compared to hers. 

MrsKaufold1990
by on May. 23, 2013 at 3:59 PM
From being spanked?!?!?

Nah

Just emotionally damaged from my past relationships lol


Quoting Rachael-Dawn:

Are you "emotionally damaged"?



Quoting MrsKaufold1990:

I was spanked as a child.





Did no harm






Quoting Rachael-Dawn:

Lol I agree with a lot of this but I am so sick of people bitching about people who spank their kids bottoms it not even funny. When you can tell me your story of how messed up and abused you were as a child I would love to hear it. If I had just gotten my rear end reddened a bit I would have been grateful. My kids are happy and healthy. Yes, they get a spanking every now and again. They arr not seriously damaged.







Quoting MrsKaufold1990:

Lol okay.










Quoting HopeJoyPeace1:

That's not true!

If you paddle your child even if they are clothed.. and even if you use an open hand.. 

If you leave a mark.. IT IS CONSIDERED ABUSE!

No spanking isn't automatically abuse.. But it can become abuse.. if you do it too hard, too much or do it in such a ways as to inflict mental and or emotional damage to a child..

Quoting MrsKaufold1990:

Well paddling isny considered abuse.











As long as its on a clothed bottom with an open hand.



MrsKaufold1990
by on May. 23, 2013 at 4:00 PM
What was her name???

I got a message from an angela, but I never responded after she said she spanked


Quoting kansasmom1978:

Paddling/spanking is not abuse. Althought from the private message I got earlier I found that my idea of spanking is by no means abuse compared to hers. 


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