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What would you do?

Posted by on Jun. 10, 2013 at 9:18 AM
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Question: To honor my late mother's birthday, I would post a picture on Facebook of me with her:

Options:

looking healthy.

looking terminally ill.


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What's your take?

If you have a loved one who died from a terminal illness...let's say, it's your mom, today is her birthday and you decide to post a picture of you and your mom on Facebook honoring her.

Do you choose a photo of you and your mom when she is well and healthy looking, or do you post a picture of you and your mom with her looking very sick?

by on Jun. 10, 2013 at 9:18 AM
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yryssa1
by Member on Jun. 10, 2013 at 9:21 AM
Post a picture of when they were the healthiest and happy. My dad passed away 8 years ago. I have a favorite pic of him and my DD when she was one. I like to post it in memory of him. He looked great. When he passed, he had lost so much weight :(
texassahm
by Gold Member on Jun. 10, 2013 at 9:29 AM

FYI - This is not about me, it's about someone I love who lost their mom.  I think she is posting ill pics of her mom to get attention.  But I wanted to get other's opinions before I passed that judgment.  My mom did die (in 1989) and any time *I* post pics of her, it's always of her looking healthy and happy, because that's how I want others to remember her and that's how I remember her.

I just suggested the idea of a happy picture to her and she took it rather well.


RADmomma
by on Jun. 10, 2013 at 9:58 AM
I would go with happy & healthy because that's how I want to remember
liss.n.chris
by on Jun. 10, 2013 at 9:59 AM
Happy & healthy.
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MomGoneHealthy
by on Jun. 10, 2013 at 10:44 AM

everything we do should be done to try and create happy feelings!  Happy creates more happy and better life.  Dwelling on sickness, sadness, and trauma only creates more of the same.  More suffering doesn't mean you loved that person more. Post a happy and healthy picture!

Sassy762
by Emerald Member on Jun. 10, 2013 at 12:10 PM

I would post the picture when she was looking healthy instead of when she was sick. 

So sorry for your loss

pinkcoffeecup
by Gold Member on Jun. 10, 2013 at 1:37 PM

I'd put something up of a happy time.

ScrChk23
by Amanda on Jun. 10, 2013 at 2:23 PM
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 I have done both.  My mom's would be 60th birthday is this year.  I will probably do a healthy pic this year.

simple frown

Gypsy_Moon
by on Jun. 10, 2013 at 2:46 PM

 I think it's your choice!

momofsixangels
by Ruby Member on Jun. 10, 2013 at 3:08 PM

I lost my Mom last year. I posted a pic of her with the grandkids.It was taken at the nursing home.She had alzheimers but in the pic she is all smiles.You post w/e you want!!! Sorry for your loss!

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