No one has to read this, but I'm a just astonished at how much crap the courts put you through during a custody modification. Long story short, my ex isn't following joint custody. He makes decisions and tells me about them AFTER they have been done (or without enough time/notice to do anything about it) he has moved to 4 different places in a year and half, with 2 different women, declared bankruptcy, is dating my son's daycare teacher, and has 4 jobs now. Apparently he is never home with DS and his girlfriend watches him (per my son). We have a week on week off schedule and its just not going to work when DS goes to elementary school next year since we live in different counties. My ex refuses to let me have him go to school near me because it would make the schedule change (although schools in my county are in the top 100 of the USA), but since our consent order states DS needs to attend school in his county (we at one time lived in the same area) he is trying to make it so I give him primary or drive an hour both ways to take him to and from school on my weeks.
Which is why we are going to modify the consent order. Mediation is soon (which I offered to pay for months ago OUT OF POCKET in order to settle outside of court, and he said no he "won't agree unless a judge makes him") which is just a waste of $400 because as I previously stated, he isn't going to agree. Then we need to go back to court for a scheduling conference, then BACK to court for all the other stuff. Ugh its so stressful that he didn't want anything to do with his son until I walked out that door. Now hes superdad. I cared for that child 24/7 up until we split, and even then I did most of the work. I have to stand up there and tell a stranger why my child is better off with me? Someone who has no idea who that little boy is? Someone who doesn't know his favorite bedtime story, or color, or food. Someone who doesn't know that he loves batman and hates peas. Someone who only looks at my child as a 4 year old male. Its infuriating,
I just can't stand that apparently its OKAY to do this to the other parent. Apparently I don't know how to raise that child that I have raised WITHOUT help from workoholic. And don't get me started on the cost. Its funny that someone can have 4 jobs and still not be able to pay child support so he lies about it. Neat. Well that's the end of my rant. Moral of the story, I'm adbiding by the joint custody rules and trying to work with him, he's not. Each time I try to work something out I'm told to go to court. I'm so tired of it.