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Paula Deen: Why are people trivializing her behavior?

Posted by on Jun. 24, 2013 at 11:03 PM
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She said she wanted to throw a party for her relative's wedding and have her African American employees dressed up as slaves. That's somehow all right with everyone? 

She denied using racist terminology, to the point of fighting those allegations. That's called lying. Everyone's okay with that?

ETA: Since a lot of people seem to be unclear on the issue of just why Paula Deen's decision to exercise her freedom of speech in front of her employees is an issue, please remember that creating a hostile work environment is considered grounds for being sued in a court of law. If you stand behind her decision to use profanity when calling her employees names to their faces, then you must feel that her right to express herself supersedes an employee's right to work in a non-threatening environment.

Keep in mind, also that her creepy brother abused his position as well, either showing porn to the employees or leaving it where they would be sure to see it while also using profanity to their faces. Paula Deen did admit to these things in her deposition.  Furthermore, Paula Deen has every right to bellow anything that pops into her head, no matter how offensive it is, wherever the hell she is at the time she thinks of it. That is not illegal. What is illegal is to force a company to employ her to represent them when she clearly is not suitable to behave like a normal person.

Let me put it to you this way: Let's say you have a nice successful company and thousands of people are applying to work for you every day. Now let's say that one of your employees suddenly goes rogue and starts babbling obscenities at your customers. Let's say the customers complain and sue you. Now let's say your employee lies about it, then admits it, then apologizes in a very half-assed way. Are you going to let them continue to work for you? Or are you going to cut her loose, knowing you can hire someone else to hawk your products?

Paula Deen was hired by many companies. The Food Network is chief among them, but she also worked for Smithfield Hams and other large companies, representing their products. There's her face, emblazoned across the product, a daily reminder to buyers that she said and did some horribly nasty things. Eventually, the people in the stores or watching tv are going to come to believe that the companies she represents also have the same profane values as this idiot. And they will stop buying those products, or watching that channel. Who wants such a liability representing their company? I sure as heck wouldn't.

by on Jun. 24, 2013 at 11:03 PM
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NDADanceMom
by on Jun. 24, 2013 at 11:05 PM
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I don't care either way. I'm not a fan. I've heard other people say offensive things. I just avoid them and move on.
celestegood
by Platinum Member on Jun. 24, 2013 at 11:08 PM
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I think it's totally not ok. I don't like her though, and I never have. I don't care if she loses or keeps her job. I wouldn't watch her anyway/buy her products.
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taKENheart
by Flovely on Jun. 25, 2013 at 12:30 AM
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If I can hear recorded proof of her actually saying what she is accused of then I WILL change my mind about the whole thing.
I don't believe that our past mistakes should be thrown in our faces years later. Yes, I know she's being accused of saying something in recent years but right now it seems to be a he said she said case. 
I support Paula Deen...until I have concrete proof otherwise.  Maybe I am naive...Maybe I am stupid but I can't hold this against her IF it hasn't been said since 1986 since she has said the N word.  If it is proven that she has been a liar to all of us and is indeed a true racist then I cannot support her and I will not continue. 
I am just watching as it all plays out.  She is supposed to be on the Today Show on wednesday so I'll be watching that too.
I will not support her if I get a true feeling that she IS racist.  I would not support her if she said anything about the gay community either.  I would just hope it's not the truth.  I'm not looking for a witch hunt just yet....I'm watching and reading.

I hope that all made sense. 

diaperstodating
by on Jun. 25, 2013 at 12:38 AM
If she said it in 1986 that's just the only time she was caught. She obviously uses the word regularly and has no respect for African Americans. I was never a fan of Paula Deen, I never watched her show (I don't watch cooking shows) or bought any of her products.
KendallsMommee
by Bronze Member on Jun. 25, 2013 at 12:53 AM
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It's because she's white.

If Oprah was going around calling white people crackers or honkies, they'd lynch her.

But Paula Deen is white, so it's alright.

Sickening.
Sanctimommy
by Platinum Member on Jun. 25, 2013 at 12:54 AM

The depostition is available to read in full online.

http://www.scribd.com/doc/148813272/Transcript-of-the-Testimony-of-Paula-Deen-Date-May-17-2013

Page 127 onward documents the plantation wedding she wanted for her relative using African American employees as props. A deposition is a legal admission. The deposition is public record. The news companies read the records and reported them to the public.

Quoting taKENheart:

If I can hear recorded proof of her actually saying what she is accused of then I WILL change my mind about the whole thing.
I don't believe that our past mistakes should be thrown in our faces years later. Yes, I know she's being accused of saying something in recent years but right now it seems to be a he said she said case. 
I support Paula Deen...until I have concrete proof otherwise.  Maybe I am naive...Maybe I am stupid but I can't hold this against her IF it hasn't been said since 1986 since she has said the N word.  If it is proven that she has been a liar to all of us and is indeed a true racist then I cannot support her and I will not continue. 
I am just watching as it all plays out.  She is supposed to be on the Today Show on wednesday so I'll be watching that too.
I will not support her if I get a true feeling that she IS racist.  I would not support her if she said anything about the gay community either.  I would just hope it's not the truth.  I'm not looking for a witch hunt just yet....I'm watching and reading.

I hope that all made sense. 


FrozenReesesCup
by on Jun. 25, 2013 at 12:54 AM

taKENheart
by Flovely on Jun. 25, 2013 at 1:09 AM
Sorry CM isn't loading here for me so I can't use my normal font or anything :/ I had heard about all of that but didn't read depositions :/ I guess I really wanted to think she made a mistake years ago and it wasn't apart of her daily interactions. :( I guess it's worse than I thought it was. I still like her but that's not saying much since I'm white. I would like to believe that if a black person said something against white people years ago that I would forgive them. The difference is that I don't know how I would feel if it were reversed because I don't have a similar case to go by. Sure I find certain people pro their race but I don't know that they say racial slurs to others...I just hate this whole thing and wish it had never happened. I know that I'll probably never get my wish but it still saddens me when people attack others whether it is about being gay, black, white, or atheist...etc....there are more but you get the point.
Quoting Sanctimommy:

The depostition is available to read in full online.

http://www.scribd.com/doc/148813272/Transcript-of-the-Testimony-of-Paula-Deen-Date-May-17-2013

Page 127 onward documents the plantation wedding she wanted for her relative using African American employees as props. A deposition is a legal admission. The deposition is public record. The news companies read the records and reported them to the public.

Quoting taKENheart:

If I can hear recorded proof of her actually saying what she is accused of then I WILL change my mind about the whole thing.
I don't believe that our past mistakes should be thrown in our faces years later. Yes, I know she's being accused of saying something in recent years but right now it seems to be a he said she said case. 
I support Paula Deen...until I have concrete proof otherwise.  Maybe I am naive...Maybe I am stupid but I can't hold this against her IF it hasn't been said since 1986 since she has said the N word.  If it is proven that she has been a liar to all of us and is indeed a true racist then I cannot support her and I will not continue. 
I am just watching as it all plays out.  She is supposed to be on the Today Show on wednesday so I'll be watching that too.
I will not support her if I get a true feeling that she IS racist.  I would not support her if she said anything about the gay community either.  I would just hope it's not the truth.  I'm not looking for a witch hunt just yet....I'm watching and reading.

I hope that all made sense. 


coupon_ash_back
by on Jun. 25, 2013 at 1:14 AM
Because they don't understand how powerful and hurtful it is!
coupon_ash_back
by on Jun. 25, 2013 at 1:15 AM
I cringed at that video where she states that the man she "trusts with her life "is hard to be seen by the blackboard he was standing by because
he is so dark.
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