Breaking up with your kids friends parents
I joined Cafemom to specifically ask this question. We recently moved away from a neighborhood where we had a neighbor that was a little over whelming. She has two children and although the youngest one isn't a big issue-yet as she is 18 months- the older one who is 4 is a borderline nightmare. We believe it's from their disciplinary side - which they lack.
Some examples are if her daugher is acting out she says it's because she is hungry, will feed her, and then come out and say ' see it's like she's a whole different person'. No apologies to me or my kids if she was taking toys, hitting or crying because they won't play what she wants to play and no discipline for her. I've noticed my children will do that too and I will feed them and apologize (or have them apologize) to anyone who was hurt or offended and tell them that the attitude is not acceptable.
Once my 2 year old (at the time) and her 4 year old who was 3 at the time were sitting together on the curb outside and my 2 year olds knees were not facing her so her daughter pushed my daughters knees towards her my daughter just moved her knees back and her daughter had the most ridiculous tempter tantrum I've ever seen. Her mother just says 'oh she must be tired or hungry or just doesn't understand.
Once my 3 year old came crying to me because her 4 year old hit her. Right away, automatically the mother just says ' I didn't see anything'.. So while I'm trying to calm my 3 year old down my 5 year old says ' so and so hit her'. THEN the mother says ' so and so did you hit her?' and she lies and then admits to hitting her. So the mother just says 'she's confused'..
Those are just some that I can remember. Our parenting styles are way different. I'm tired of her making excuses for her child and not disciplining her to the point that even my daughters don't want to hang out with her kids anymore. We have another neighbor-friend in common that is fed up with it as well. We moved which has helped.. we don't fear going outside and running into them asking for them to play, we don't have to ignore the knocks on the door or the constant door bell ringing because she doesn't tell her daughter not to approach our door once we've already said no we're not playing outside right now. But we're still getting text messages (which she sends to both my husband and I since we both have opposite schedules she's hoping to reach one of us) however we don't respond and haven't responded for the past month and she doesn't seem to get it.
So distancing ourselves doesn't seem to work - or ignoring her texts she doesn't get the hint. We obviously have to tell her but we're not sure how..