Ok so first some background about me. I'm a single mom with a 15 yr old dd and 11 yo SN ds. I was in an abusive marriage for 13 yrs with their dad and only found the courage to leave him when he became mentally abusive towards the kids. I work a crappy low paying job that I really hate cuz it's convenient and allows me to spend more time with my kids. The only PA I get is federal health ins for my disable son. My ex helps me a LOT financially and is welcome any time to see or pick up his kids. My dd is generally a VERY good kid. She is a straight A student in all honors classes, helpful around the house, does volunteer work, and doesn't hang out in the streets. In fact she rarely goes out and doesn't socialize much cuz she is so focused on school. She also recently was chosen for a full 3 yr scholarship to Princeton university for a college prep program. My problem is this-I've always thought dd and I get along great. We never really argue or fight, we work well together, we talk a lot, she tells me pretty much everything, and I haven't had to punish or ground her since she was six. I give her a ride to and from school whenever my work schedule permits and sometimes I will also give friends a ride. I'm a very laid back parent as I feel that the kids had way too much rules and structure when their dad was here. So I generally will talk to dd and their friends as semi grown ups and all of her friends say ur mom is so cool and I wish my mom was like that. All my sisters kids are always here cuz they prefer my parenting style to my sister and BIL. The other day I was on twitter and I happened to look at my daughters page (I wasn't snooping really, ok maybe I was a little) and I found that literally every post she made was something derogoratory towards me. Ex: my mom is mean, my mom is so embarrassing, my mom doesn't understand me, etc. so then I said something to her and we had a huge fight about it. I feel like my feelings are hurt and I make so many sacrifices for her it's not even funny and then she posts it for the whole world to see. And she feels like I should never have snooped on her twitter but its not like it was her private diary or anything. It's TWITTER for Pete's sake where anyone can see. Both of us are now having trouble getting past this issue. Any advice from other moms esp. of teens?
on Jun. 28, 2013 at 1:31 PM