Looking For Helpful Ideas As EXECUTOR OF THE WILL (PIOG)
My grandfather just died this weekend. My mother is listed as the executor of the will. She has 3 sisters. Anyway, everything that was listed in the will ofcourse will have to go to the person it is willed to. Ofcourse there are many things which are not listed in the will. My mother is trying to figure out the best, most fair way for that stuff to be given out without causing any type of family conflict~~~One of my aunts is very greedy and one of my aunts is just very headstrong and is one of those "if you give her an inch she'll take a mile" type of people. These two are the ones my mother is more nervous about . She's afraid that they may too easily take more than they should and not leave things for other family members. Being the executor, my mother is the one who can take control of all that. She just needs to figure out how. She was talking to me last night about possibilities. Finally I thought and told her that maybe I could squeeze some thoughts or ideas out of you ladies.
One idea that was mentioned by my aunts was to allow everyone to go through the house and put a sticky note with their name on it on everything they want. The problem with that is that one of my aunts will probably put her name on EVERYTHING, and ofcourse we would have to figure out what to do about things that more than one person wants.
What my mom thought of was to set everyone in a circle and take turns getting one thing (kids, then grandkids, then great grandkids). Then ofcourse continue the same thing until we're through. Ofcourse then there is a possibility that something we really want will be taken before it is our turn again.
Those are two ideas that have been brought up/thought of so far but ofcourse we see real flaws with both ideas. We are looking for more ideas or pieces of advice from anyone who might have experience in dealing with this situation or from anyone else who might just have some ideas.