My parents are also the sole caregiver for my 10 year old nephew and 12 year old niece. They never come anywhere near that on their birthday. For my nieces 12th birthday she got a $10 itunes gift card for her mp3 player and fuzzy socks. My nephew got an xbox game for his 10th birthday.
I personally think they favor her and spoil her. She gets everything she wants. She has more clothes than she could ever wear, she has a cell phone, ipod, her own laptop, a 12 speed bike, roller blades, a huge selection of make up, nail polish, body lotion, body spray and hair bands. Where as my niece and newphew have but few clothes maybe enough for a week or so, they have an xbox and each a bike and a few othet personal items.
Am I wrong in thinking they spoil her?