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Is this rude, or is it just me? EDITED TO ADD #3

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I stopped at the grocery store this morning with my 9 month old daughter to pick up a loaf of bread.  I got in the check out line behind two people.  The lady right in front of me had a cart load of groceries.  So I stood there in line, holding my daughter and a loaf of bread waiting for my turn.

I thought it was inconsiderate to not offer to let me ahead of her.  If I find myself in a similar situation I always offer, even if I have my kids and the person behind me is alone.  To me, it's just common courtesy.

FYI. There was only 1 line open, no express line.  She absolutely knew I was there because she had to go around me to grab a magazine from the rack behind me.

ETA.  Wow.  I really didn't expect that I would be in the minority on this one.  I thought that letting someone ahead of you in line was just common courtesy, like holding the door for the person behind you.  

I'm really surprised that some of you think I was rude by expecting to be allowed to go ahead.  First of all, I didn't actually "expect" it (I've learned a long time ago that expecting people to be considerate and polite is a waste of time), I just thought it was inconsiderate. Secondly, even if I did expect it, I don't see how that would be rude.  I mean, expecting people to be kind and considerate of others is rude?  Hmmmm.  Perhaps if I had said something to her, that would have been rude, but I simply waited patiently in line with my daughter.

I do get that her time is just as important as mine, but honestly what is 30 seconds to anyone?

And, for further clarification I am not a spoiled, entitled brat.  I'm just someone who was raised to go out of my way to help others and am sometimes surprised that not everyone was taught common courtesy.

ETA #2.

Well apparently I am in the minority on this one.  I honestly thought this was a common act of courtesy.  I do it all of the time and others have done it for me. 

You can continue to believe that I am a spoiled, entitled brat.  But just remember, the next time you are stuck in traffic, trying to merge and someone lets you in it might be me.  Or if you are running through a downpour towards the bank, and someone waits an extra 5 seconds to hold the door for you, it might be me.

ETA #3.

Well, I'm glad to see I have a couple of supporters out there.  I guess we just look at the world a little differently that the majority of people.  

To those who resorted to name calling (you know who you are), all I have to say is "how rude!"




by on Jul. 5, 2013 at 10:39 AM
Replies (171-180):
raeyliNlilysmom
by on Jul. 8, 2013 at 3:48 AM
I always let someone who has less go first. I never expect it to happen to me tho. Its nice but, not expected from other people ya know?
Ellybella2617
by on Jul. 8, 2013 at 3:51 AM
Your right, you did nothing wrong!

Quoting LDavis33:

I really don't see how it is rude to think that it is inconsiderate.  I mean, I would be willing to bet that 95% of the women on here who are calling me entitled and selfish have thought the same thing when they've been in that same position.  It would have been rude if I had called the lady out right there in the grocery store, or mumbled about her being a selfish brat within earshot.  But I didn't I patiently waited my turn.

Quoting supermom0094:

It is rude of you to think someones just going to let you go ahead. I've had people tell me to go ahead of them when I only had a few things and I say no Thank you. 


acrogodess
by Lissette on Jul. 8, 2013 at 3:54 AM
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she was not rude, but definitely inconsiderate. I do as you do. Offer the person with significantly less items than me to go first especially since I go to the register usually with 2-3 carts.
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Ellybella2617
by on Jul. 8, 2013 at 3:57 AM
Exactly!!!! Finally some one who has a heart, it's really not a big deal to let some one ahead of you if they have just one item while you have a full cart, while your unloading your things the person with one item will be done and gone before you finish. I let people go ahead of me all the time it's not a big damn deal.

Quoting jconney80:

I would definitely have let you ahead of me. My husband and I both do this for others. I don't think it's rude of you to think others should do it too. It's just common courtesy.

Cherish77
by Cherish on Jul. 8, 2013 at 5:57 AM

Most times I will offer if there is someone with less to go ahead, but only if I haven't already starting loading onto the conveyer belt.

I never expect others too.

hylyner777
by on Jul. 8, 2013 at 6:51 AM
You are absolutely right.
tamgunny
by on Jul. 8, 2013 at 7:02 AM
I think it's very rude. Manners and common courtesy have gone out the window. There are people here who will get in the express lane with 20 items, instead of 10, I walk up with 2 and i have to wait behind them.
Those of you saying the poster is ignorant or rude are probably one of the ones doing it.
GaleJ
by Silver Member on Jul. 8, 2013 at 10:00 AM

LDavis 33, I am a fellow believer and while we might be in the minority I try to behave as you do as well. Such simple courtesy would make the world a happier and less stressed out place and might just leave us all feeling a bit less frustrated at the end of the day. Despite the fact that we may seem to be in a small minority we mustn't become discouraged and should just keep being courteous and teaching our children to be so as well!

SweetPea2004
by Silver Member on Jul. 8, 2013 at 10:50 AM

A baby doesn't give you priority.

fullxbusymom
by Silver Member on Jul. 8, 2013 at 12:47 PM

I agree with you.

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