deceased pets ashes question UPDATE>> I LOOKED
ok, so my cat of 19 yrs passed away this past winter.. i decided to pay to get her ashes.
they gave it to me in a tin.. and they told me its in a plastic pouch..
anyway i keep it over my fireplace with her collar on top & her picture near by
when i miss her I hold her collar & look at her pic and at times i touch the tin box to feel closer to her bc i just wish i can hold her i guess..
anyway.. sometimes i get curious to look at see her ashes.. ive never seen ashes of a person or pet before.. i did open the tin and noticed right away theres tissue paper covering in they really decorated it which was pretty & nice but honetsly i sorta felt like she was something i walked out a a bed , bath & beyond store.. it was TOO dressed up it felt weird..
anyway.. is it weird or abnormal to want to look at it? im also scared to.. like will it haunt me to see it.. what does it look like? i have no idea & im curious but im scared too
1st of all thank you everyone for your adivce & support... i knew i wanted to but was scared. im still early in the moourning stage its only been almost 5 months & i had her 19 yrs.
so i opened the box & it was wrapped real tight with tissue paper rolled in it MANY times.. each roll i was anticipating seeing the bag but it took a while.. as i got closer i began to feel the ashes . finally the bag appeared.. & most of you if nto all were right.. it looked like sand i guess mostly small a few tiny bigger peices but not anything bigger than a small pebble. a few specks of color which freaked me a bit for some reason btu idk.. anyway i had the collar & her name tag in my hand too & i just lost it & cried. i cried lke the day she passed in my arms. oddly i found myself talking to her & felt crazy for it but i was like omg is this really you?? and i just kept asking that. i cried alot & told her how much i missed her aqnd her soft beatuful fur.. i just sat there holding the bag & her colar and cried. but as much as it brought up feeling again.. im happy i did it bc i no longer need to wonder whats in there & what to expect. i dont feel the need to look again or hold it. the next time ill ever see it is when i get the chance to get a nicer urn.
thanks so much for your kind words. it was a really hard loss for me ive beeen through alot & she was there for all of it & lately ive been though a very hard time & this is the 1st time she isnt here.
thanks again xx and again, im sorry for those who lost as well.. pets are amazing they truly are family.