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mamas with LO with adhd/add

Posted by on Jul. 7, 2013 at 12:26 PM
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Several people have came to me with concerns that my almost 6 year seems to have this. What are things I should look for? Too often doctors diagnose for the smallest things. I don't want to medicate my child if its not needed.
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Indy3000
by Member on Jul. 7, 2013 at 12:29 PM

I dont know your daughter so i couldnt sit here and tell you they are wrong but I have been told my daughter may have it when i really think that kids are supposed to be somewhat hyper and not just laid back all of the time. Just an opinion and not trying to judge because once again i dont know her. Also i think diet affects how children act. Sorry i can't tell you what to look for hope you figure it out :)


kjsaes
by on Jul. 7, 2013 at 12:32 PM
Its not just the way she acts, she will not concentrate on anything. When your talking to her she's always fiddling with something, staring into space, she acts like your not even talking to her. When sitting her down in a chair she won't sit still. We practice her writing and its like there is always something going on in her head that makes her not stop. She talks so much.


Quoting Indy3000:

I dont know your daughter so i couldnt sit here and tell you they are wrong but I have been told my daughter may have it when i really think that kids are supposed to be somewhat hyper and not just laid back all of the time. Just an opinion and not trying to judge because once again i dont know her. Also i think diet affects how children act. Sorry i can't tell you what to look for hope you figure it out :)



jconney80
by Gold Member on Jul. 7, 2013 at 11:00 PM

This sounds like my oldest daughter. She is being evaluated for Aspergers. She was originally diagnosed with only ADHD and OCD (because she lines up toys) but then my son was diagnosed with autism spectrum disorder and we started to see my daughter was actually stimming (fiddling with things and touching everything or constantly moving and talking) instead of just having what we thought were hyper behaviors. I would have her seen by a developmental pediatrician who can rule out everything instead of just taking her to a psychologist who will diagnose her with the easiest thing (ADHD is very easy to diagnose). A developmental pedi can rule out learning disorders, autism, sensory processing problems (part of autism but frequently misdiagnosed as ADHD because it causes hyper behaviors), etc. Good luck and if you have any questions feel free to message me. I have 3 kiddos who seem normal but fall on the autism spectrum and are very hyper!

Quoting kjsaes:

Its not just the way she acts, she will not concentrate on anything. When your talking to her she's always fiddling with something, staring into space, she acts like your not even talking to her. When sitting her down in a chair she won't sit still. We practice her writing and its like there is always something going on in her head that makes her not stop. She talks so much.


Quoting Indy3000:

I dont know your daughter so i couldnt sit here and tell you they are wrong but I have been told my daughter may have it when i really think that kids are supposed to be somewhat hyper and not just laid back all of the time. Just an opinion and not trying to judge because once again i dont know her. Also i think diet affects how children act. Sorry i can't tell you what to look for hope you figure it out :)




ditsyjo
by Gold Member on Jul. 8, 2013 at 1:58 AM

before you jump to a developmental problem make sure you have eliminated all possible physical causes... have you had her eyes and hearing checked...what about her tonsils and or adnoids... there a several posiblities that can cause ADHD symptoms but can be cured rather than just treated.

kjsaes
by on Jul. 8, 2013 at 6:33 AM
She's sees the ENT every six months so het ears are good. She just had an eye exam a couple months ago. She has alreafy had her adnoids removed, they checked her tonsils and said they were fine.


Quoting ditsyjo:

before you jump to a developmental problem make sure you have eliminated all possible physical causes... have you had her eyes and hearing checked...what about her tonsils and or adnoids... there a several posiblities that can cause ADHD symptoms but can be cured rather than just treated.


kjsaes
by on Jul. 8, 2013 at 6:46 AM
That's what I'm afraid of I don't want to misdiagnose her because too often they say adah. I'm going to contact a behavior specialist and see what steps I need to take. She has pierre robin syndrome I'm not sure what underlying conditions are linked to it.


Quoting jconney80:

This sounds like my oldest daughter. She is being evaluated for Aspergers. She was originally diagnosed with only ADHD and OCD (because she lines up toys) but then my son was diagnosed with autism spectrum disorder and we started to see my daughter was actually stimming (fiddling with things and touching everything or constantly moving and talking) instead of just having what we thought were hyper behaviors. I would have her seen by a developmental pediatrician who can rule out everything instead of just taking her to a psychologist who will diagnose her with the easiest thing (ADHD is very easy to diagnose). A developmental pedi can rule out learning disorders, autism, sensory processing problems (part of autism but frequently misdiagnosed as ADHD because it causes hyper behaviors), etc. Good luck and if you have any questions feel free to message me. I have 3 kiddos who seem normal but fall on the autism spectrum and are very hyper!

Quoting kjsaes:

Its not just the way she acts, she will not concentrate on anything. When your talking to her she's always fiddling with something, staring into space, she acts like your not even talking to her. When sitting her down in a chair she won't sit still. We practice her writing and its like there is always something going on in her head that makes her not stop. She talks so much.





Quoting Indy3000:

I dont know your daughter so i couldnt sit here and tell you they are wrong but I have been told my daughter may have it when i really think that kids are supposed to be somewhat hyper and not just laid back all of the time. Just an opinion and not trying to judge because once again i dont know her. Also i think diet affects how children act. Sorry i can't tell you what to look for hope you figure it out :)






jhslove
by Bronze Member on Jul. 8, 2013 at 7:03 AM

I don't have a child with ADD, but I have ADHD myself. I was diagnosed in the fifth grade, which was in 1991. Take this for what you will, and feel free to disregard it--

I see way too many kids being "diagnosed" with ADD/ADHD, at very young ages, and meds being looked at as the first and only course of action. I think this is a bad idea. First of all, five-year-olds are SUPPOSED to be hyper. They're not SUPPOSED to sit still for hours and focus on one thing for extended periods; that's not how young children are wired. So I'm curious as to what the grounds are for the speculation that your daughter has ADHD. Is it certain behaviors? And if so, what are they?

I really think that a lot of kids who are labeled as ADHD could be improved simply with a change in diet, more physical activity and a more predictable daily routine. I've seen several cases where those measures alone have resulted in significant improvement.

Personally, I would be hesitant to medicate a five-year-old. I was put on Ritalin when I was first diagnosed, but as I said, I was in fifth grade, not kindergarten. And even after I was prescribed meds, my parents worked very closely with my teachers and I was in behavioral therapy. THAT was the major part of treatment, not the meds. The meds just helped to get me to a place where I was capable of controlling my impulses and focusing when needed, and eventually I learned to cope with my symptoms so that Ritalin wasn't even necessary. And the other big thing is, my parents still held me to the same high standards as if I didn't have ADHD. I see way too many parents using ADHD/ADD as an excuse, and the kids suffer as a result because they don't learn valuable life skills that they're going to need in order to be successful, functioning adults.

Anyway, like I said, feel free to disregard anything I've said. But I think five years old is too early to be speculating that your daughter has ADHD. A lot of what she's doing is probably age-appropriate, but without specifics it's hard to know for sure. If you're really concerned, don't let people on the street diagnose her. Find a really good developmental specialist and get her evaluated.


dana63
by Member on Jul. 8, 2013 at 7:13 AM

 As a mother of a child that has ADHD and even a Psychology student I cant tell you what your child has even if you describe the symptoms to me. There is always that fine line for those who have ADHD and in my opinion some are misdiagnosis. Kids at this age are some what hyper because they are starting school and don't know how to sit in their chair in a structure classroom for 8 hours.

My daughter didn't take medication and we did diet control and it worked for her. She is now 26 and also has bi polar and still no medication and she is doing great.

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Elle.tea.22
by Bronze Member on Jul. 8, 2013 at 8:40 AM
I don't think those conditions are real so.
RheaF
by Sweet Insanity on Jul. 8, 2013 at 8:49 AM

 DS has ADHD, however, we do not medicate. For him it was the fits that lasted for more than an hour, his energy level, inability to focus on anything even for a few seconds, etc. The Doctor has also made noise about ASD however, my DH and I do not feel the need for a formal diagnosis. We are controllingit through diet and exercises. He cannot have any artificial dyes, we seriously limit HFCS, no BHT, etc. I make sure he gets good quality active play everyday, and we stick to a routine.

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