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I regret having to use it on my bf, but was I right to?

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I'm 23 yrs. old and have been dating this guy for about 4 mos. now. At first he seemed open and supportive, but as of late it's gotten progressively worse. I happen to take taekwondo, and have for about 7 mos now. He hadn't been threatening to me in any way before. That's why what happened last night is so surprising. We got into an argument, about job/finances-mostly me pushing him to make more of an effort. He got very rude with me, and it got to the point where I wanted to leave the room, just try the discussion another time. He grabbed my arm at the wrist as I was walking away. Then I used a serious tone telling him "NOT to do that!" He mocked me (as he's aware of my taking taekwondo) saying "Oh, what are you going to do, use your little strip mall dojo crap?" Ooookay, now I see! I simply faced him, assessing where it would go from there. I simply told him not to go there. He responds with a sneer and "We'll see about that!" and flung back his right hand to slap my face. I reacted exactly as we've practiced in class so many times, ducking under his hand. He missed, and his momentum threw him sort off of balance. When I came up, I took 1 step back, and with my left leg, maximum flexibility (since he's 7 inches taller), used a crescent kick (where you kick in a motion-inside out in a circular motion) on him, nailed the side of his face. He stumbled back about 2 steps but didn't go down. Instead he yelled "Why you bit**!" at me and flung his arm out for another slap attempt. It was easy to see though, and without thinking I used another crescent kick on him, this time with my right leg, nailed him good on the other side of his face. He went down. I used that moment to grab my handbag and leave, I didn't bother to grab anything else. I haven't called any mutual acquaintances yet, so I don't know what he's said or done since last night. I'm staying with a friend right now. I had no hint something like this would happen. I just reacted the way I was trained in class, and it worked. I wonder if it was too much though. Thoughts? Advice? Thanks.

by on Jul. 10, 2013 at 2:12 PM
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mztara82
by on Jul. 10, 2013 at 6:10 PM

I dont blame you for protecting yourself against someone who had all intention of hitting you. You probably suprised him with what you know. If I were in your situation Id do the same. No man has the right to put their hands on any female. You go girl. Dont feel bad for protecting yourself. If I were you id think about if you are meant to be with him. Once they try to hit you they will try again. Please be careful.

JollyMommy84
by on Jul. 10, 2013 at 6:40 PM


Quoting DSamuels:

Good for you!!!

I would also file a police report and take someone, maybe even a cop with you when you go to get the rest of your belongings.


PookiePanda
by on Jul. 10, 2013 at 6:42 PM

Good girl.. Kick that woman beaters ass! This is why YOU TAKE THOSE CLASSES! Good for you!

mama23brie
by on Jul. 10, 2013 at 6:57 PM
I think you did the right thing. The fact that it was a natural reaction is awesome. Also that he tried to tease you for it and got his ass kicked lmfao!

please bring someone with you when you get your stuff. And yes, i agree with a previous post, if he did it once he'll do it again. Don't refer to that scum as your boyfriend anymore. You deserve way better!
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daytonbaby210
by on Jul. 10, 2013 at 7:18 PM

Way to go Girl. I agree with other posters bring someone when getting your stuff. I wish that I could do that.

katzmeow726
by on Jul. 10, 2013 at 7:21 PM
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Did you actually read?  She tried to, and he grabbed her arm.  She gave him a warning not to do it, and let her go...he didn't listen and chose instead to raise his hand to her.  What should she have done, just sit and take it?

Quoting goddiddlyumshis:

*slow clap*
How mature. You should've just left.
What belt are you?


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katzmeow726
by on Jul. 10, 2013 at 7:21 PM

Good for you OP...time to kick him to the curb though.  He's done it once, he'll try it again!

goddiddlyumshis
by on Jul. 10, 2013 at 8:33 PM
No, I'm fucking illiterate and can't read.
Obviously I read, and I'll still say the same thing. Self defense, go for it. But her ass would still get charged if cops were involved.


Quoting katzmeow726:

Did you actually read?  She tried to, and he grabbed her arm.  She gave him a warning not to do it, and let her go...he didn't listen and chose instead to raise his hand to her.  What should she have done, just sit and take it?

Quoting goddiddlyumshis:

*slow clap*

How mature. You should've just left.

What belt are you?


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RADmomma
by on Jul. 10, 2013 at 8:39 PM
You might want to file a restraining order.
autiovisual
by on Jul. 10, 2013 at 8:47 PM

Slapping you is a big red flag. Stay the hell away from this guy if u want a normal life. shrugging

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