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I regret having to use it on my bf, but was I right to?

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I'm 23 yrs. old and have been dating this guy for about 4 mos. now. At first he seemed open and supportive, but as of late it's gotten progressively worse. I happen to take taekwondo, and have for about 7 mos now. He hadn't been threatening to me in any way before. That's why what happened last night is so surprising. We got into an argument, about job/finances-mostly me pushing him to make more of an effort. He got very rude with me, and it got to the point where I wanted to leave the room, just try the discussion another time. He grabbed my arm at the wrist as I was walking away. Then I used a serious tone telling him "NOT to do that!" He mocked me (as he's aware of my taking taekwondo) saying "Oh, what are you going to do, use your little strip mall dojo crap?" Ooookay, now I see! I simply faced him, assessing where it would go from there. I simply told him not to go there. He responds with a sneer and "We'll see about that!" and flung back his right hand to slap my face. I reacted exactly as we've practiced in class so many times, ducking under his hand. He missed, and his momentum threw him sort off of balance. When I came up, I took 1 step back, and with my left leg, maximum flexibility (since he's 7 inches taller), used a crescent kick (where you kick in a motion-inside out in a circular motion) on him, nailed the side of his face. He stumbled back about 2 steps but didn't go down. Instead he yelled "Why you bit**!" at me and flung his arm out for another slap attempt. It was easy to see though, and without thinking I used another crescent kick on him, this time with my right leg, nailed him good on the other side of his face. He went down. I used that moment to grab my handbag and leave, I didn't bother to grab anything else. I haven't called any mutual acquaintances yet, so I don't know what he's said or done since last night. I'm staying with a friend right now. I had no hint something like this would happen. I just reacted the way I was trained in class, and it worked. I wonder if it was too much though. Thoughts? Advice? Thanks.

by on Jul. 10, 2013 at 2:12 PM
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by Platinum Member on Jul. 12, 2013 at 7:52 AM
Good plan to contact police. But maybe call the non emergency line and ask questions first.
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by on Jul. 12, 2013 at 8:09 AM

no it won't be the end of it. 

i wasn't going to respond to this. 

but if he tried to smack you, for you doing something wrong he is going to try and beat the crap out of you when you try to leave for good, or come after you

Quoting allisontd:

My plan is just to stay here for a few days while looking for a new place. I'm going to go back on 1 of his days off and grab the rest of my belongings, and just hope that's the end of it.

by on Jul. 12, 2013 at 8:28 AM
It's called self defense. He grabbed you first!! Good for you!!
by on Jul. 12, 2013 at 9:04 AM

Good Job!!!  You did the right thing!!!  I wouldn't go back if I were you - just for your things with someone else.  And never go back. 

by on Jul. 12, 2013 at 9:21 AM

He shouldve never grabbed you or tried to slap you to begin with so he got what he deserved. I hope you stay away from him.

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