My 10yo thinks she's fat...I'm failing...added pics, bottom of page one
So when she first said something, I brushed her off and told her to stop being ridiculous, then she started crying :(. So we had a nice long talk about how she is healthy and by no means fat. We talked about how she will thin out and lose the "baby fat" as she becomes a teenager, and then how she will gain some back as she gets older ;). We talked about my size (I am 4"11' and weigh about 120, I'm bigger than I ever have been not pregnant, but I'm healthy and pretty average, though I do have my little problem areas ;) and how she is almost my size but weighs a lot less, we talked about every body being different, and how if as she gets older she is unhappy, we can focus on eating healthier and exercising. We talked about how those things are good for your body anyway, and how she is a pretty healthy and active kid.
I think the talk helped, I told her how beautiful she is and that she has nothing to worry about at all. I asked if anyone had called her names or picked on her, and she said no. I am going to take a better look at myself and how I talk about my body in front of her. I told her that even if I make a joke, I am happy with my body and I don't think I'm fat. I explained how sometimes we might find clothes that we don't like how they look on us, it's the same as knowing that red is not my color. We like clothes that make us feel good, but that is not what defines us.
Boy, I really hope that talk helped. I have wanted nothing more than to have confident, happy children, as I was very much the opposite when I was a kid. I want her to be comfortable and happy with who she is. I will not be talking negatively about my body around the kids anymore and I will be sure to remind her how beautiful she is and let her know when she looks extra nice in something.
Would you have done or said anything different? Any advice for the future of this debacle?