my 18 year old started dating a 20 year old who lives with her mother and now he's 19 and she is 21. She is asking me can my son spend a night at her mother's house with her. She said that he mother don't mind because she is grown. I told her that I think that it is disrepectful for my son to spend a night with her, especially at her mother's house. I told her that I raised him to be repectful and it will be desrepectful to her and her mother if my son spent a night, I told her I rather he take her to a hotel then to spend a night at her mother's house. I am wondering if I am doing the right thing or I am being to old fashion. I was raised in church and was that you don't spend a night with a man unless he was your husband. I am being to hard on my son.