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Do you see this as stealing?

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My brother was homeless and on the streets using drugs at the beginning of this month. He called me one day and told me he was getting clean and needed a place to stay. I told him he could stay in my sun room and only be inside while I am here. Well he got a new job and he got his first paycheck Friday. He did not come back to my house again till Sunday. Sunday he came to me and said he had deposited all his paycheck in a new bank account and because he didnt have a card he could not get money out till Monday. He wanted to borrow $40 to get his phone turned back on. I let him borrow it. I told him I wanted it back monday. Well Sunday night he did not come in and his phone was still disconnected. Monday/yesterday he asked if he could stay here. I told him sure as long as he had the $40. He gave me $40 and I layed it on the counter. He knocked on the door at 7am and asked if he could take a shower. I let him. Well I dozed on the couch. When I got up for the day the $40 is gone. My husband says he didnt touch it, and he dont rememer seeing it. the only other person in this house is my 3 year old. I of course can't get a hold of my brother because his phone is disconnected. Do you view this as stealing?
by on Jul. 23, 2013 at 11:58 AM
Replies (21-30):
MamaMerkle126
by on Jul. 23, 2013 at 8:22 PM

Um. Yes. Kick his ass out.

Mainelady
by on Jul. 23, 2013 at 9:02 PM
I think your brother needs to find his way to a healthy lifestyle regardless of whether or not he stole from you. It sounds like you don't really trust him since you didn't want him there without you at home. That should probably speak volumes. I have been in this position with family in the past. Forgive him (to yourself) and do not include him in your family until he can be healthy and himself. Forget the money. It doesn't matter.
Sassy762
by Emerald Member on Jul. 23, 2013 at 10:40 PM

Yes. He repaid the 40.00 to  you and apparently took it back.

KellyNips
by Member on Jul. 24, 2013 at 6:49 AM

sounds like he is still using -- i would be extremely careful having a drug addict in my house with a 3 year old.  she/he could find the drugs and ingest them.  or he could have a drug dealer come looking for him and hurt you guys.  just be careful -- you are not helping him get better by enabling him.

FRUITY367
by on Jul. 24, 2013 at 7:00 AM
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For starters, he's not clean and can't be without professional help. And second for as long as he's not clean, we both know, you and me, who took the 40 dollars and its use. So, just giving him a place to stay was not enough and not good. It should have come with conditions, the first one being he goes for counseling and that you monitor it. Just him saying he's going to be clean won't make him clean. He needs your tough love to get clean. Then we can talk about 'disappearing' monies, if there still will be!
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Saloria
by Bronze Member on Jul. 24, 2013 at 4:55 PM

 Yes

jconney80
by Gold Member on Jul. 24, 2013 at 6:50 PM

Yeah definitely. It doesn't sound like he's clean

Junebaby18
by Bronze Member on Jul. 24, 2013 at 6:56 PM
Quoting FRUITY367:

For starters, he's not clean and can't be without professional help. And second for as long as he's not clean, we both know, you and me, who took the 40 dollars and its use. So, just giving him a place to stay was not enough and not good. It should have come with conditions, the first one being he goes for counseling and that you monitor it. Just him saying he's going to be clean won't make him clean. He needs your tough love to get clean. Then we can talk about 'disappearing' monies, if there still will be!


Most definitely all this!
rhiannonaisling
by on Jul. 24, 2013 at 6:59 PM

Yep. Definitely stealing..

alexis_06
by AnnaLisa :) on Jul. 24, 2013 at 7:02 PM

 yup!!

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