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Do you see this as stealing?

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My brother was homeless and on the streets using drugs at the beginning of this month. He called me one day and told me he was getting clean and needed a place to stay. I told him he could stay in my sun room and only be inside while I am here. Well he got a new job and he got his first paycheck Friday. He did not come back to my house again till Sunday. Sunday he came to me and said he had deposited all his paycheck in a new bank account and because he didnt have a card he could not get money out till Monday. He wanted to borrow $40 to get his phone turned back on. I let him borrow it. I told him I wanted it back monday. Well Sunday night he did not come in and his phone was still disconnected. Monday/yesterday he asked if he could stay here. I told him sure as long as he had the $40. He gave me $40 and I layed it on the counter. He knocked on the door at 7am and asked if he could take a shower. I let him. Well I dozed on the couch. When I got up for the day the $40 is gone. My husband says he didnt touch it, and he dont rememer seeing it. the only other person in this house is my 3 year old. I of course can't get a hold of my brother because his phone is disconnected. Do you view this as stealing?
by on Jul. 23, 2013 at 11:58 AM
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by on Jul. 24, 2013 at 9:33 PM

I would investigate a little more before I brand him a thief. There maybe a reasonable answer for the problem.

by on Jul. 24, 2013 at 10:43 PM

Not only is it stealing, I'm so sorry you that you are being so taken advantage of :(


by on Jul. 24, 2013 at 10:57 PM

Yes, it is.  I don't know what else to call it.

by on Jul. 24, 2013 at 11:21 PM


by on Jul. 25, 2013 at 12:00 AM

@ op  

if it was a penny  that was your  not hisits stealing 

depending what he uses he can get a nickle bag fro 5 a dime bag fro 10 and they can go up from there  a light user can get through the day on a nickle or dime  hard core user 40 wont even make a dent for the day 

B4 i get bashed called a druggie this Dec 30th i will be 20 yrs clean and sober

Quoting Bmat:

Yes, sadly, stealing.  Isn't $40 the standard drug cost or something like this.

by on Jul. 25, 2013 at 12:51 AM


by on Jul. 25, 2013 at 6:26 AM
Leave money out for an addict, they will take it without guilt, even if it was given to someone to pay off a debt. And frankly, someone with a proven current history of drug abuse wouldn't be allowed inside my home, unless they can prove they have been clean for a year or more.
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by on Jul. 25, 2013 at 10:07 AM

yes that is stealing, and it seems to be your brother is going to need a lot more help to stay clean. I know your not looking for this advice but do not give him any more money until you can trust him again. so many people constantly keep giving money just because they are family members. if he says he needs money for food, then just provide the food

by Ruby Member on Jul. 25, 2013 at 10:10 AM


by Gold Member on Jul. 25, 2013 at 10:11 AM
Quoting mysticalmalissa:


Sounds like he has been lying to you since you let him in your house.

I agree
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