Over the past 5 yrs he met his wife, married and they now have a son who is 2 and a year younger than our boy. We have enjoyed a lovely friendship with his wife and look forward to seeing the boys grow up together.
Despite the years of friendship one thing we've always noticed about 'Mike' is that every so often he makes critical comments of either my husband or others. He tries to come across jokingly but what really comes out is his obvious insecurities and at times envy for others. So for the most part we just don't invest a lot of time engaging in that kind of chatter with him.
Recently he has made critical comments comparing his son to ours. Our boy, is on the short/petite side, which we have never had issue about because both hubby and I were the same as kids so we get the genetics we bring to our boy. But 'Mike' has recently made comments such as "Isn't it interesting that your boy is a year older than ours and they're pretty much the same height! In fact it looks like ** will be taller!"
At first we ignored the comment, but in a recent outing he made this comment more than 3 times and in front of the boys.
I finally responded quite curtly and said "Their size doesn't matter. What's most important is that they are healthy and thriving." He backed off at first, only to make the comment again later.
I'm angry about this. It is so important to us not to foster any sort of body image issues in our child. It is clear that *Mike* has some sort of feeling of inadequacy about his son (which is really sad) and he is criticizing my son to make himself more at ease. Furthermore, this kind of talk in front of the kids sets them up for rivalry.
When I asked hubby to have a chat with him about this, he said he'd talk to him about it the next time they are 1on1, which happens about twice a year. I don't feel it should wait.
I'd like to address it myself...any thoughts?