I am a firm believe that whatever makes your marriage and your lives work in a healthy and happy way... is how it should be done. For us... that means I do most of the cleaning because his idea of cleaning makes me want to throw up most of the time, and then I just get mad at him. (he has no clue what dusting means, or cleaning the bathtub and sink w/ actual cleaning products, and would use the same rag for a month) However, I'm not currently working so I would do it all anyway. When I am working... he is good about vaccuming (we have 3 dogs, so it'd one frequently) and if he gets home before me and what's for dinner is something he knows how to make... it's done when I get home, and he takes the garbage out about 90% of the time, plus makes sure bills are paid (mostly because it's billpay out of his account though).
it NOT your job simply because you have a vagina. Women (and men) who think that are the reason sexism is still around.
My husband and I share responsibilities in the house, but we rent so he doesn't have to mow the lawn or anything either. We kind of have an unspoken agreement about what each person does based on what is easy for him to do without messing up my (admittedly very anal) organizational system. :)
Since you both work full time then it should be a shared duty. You also should take turns taking care of dinner each night as well.
My hubby is the only one working and he still cooks breakfast on the weekends and cooks dinner at least once a week unless he has to work on the weekend. He also mows the yard. And help around the house when we will be having company over and it needs a little extra cleaning.
I worked full time last year, and it was still my job to keep the house clean, I couldn't do it.. The hours I worked most days were so random or very long or had to stay away from home etc. The house fell apart. I went back to being a stay at hom mom when hubby got promoted to manager spot.
We rent as well but we have to mow the yard or pay some one to do it.
Quoting Rubia653:My husband and I share responsibilities in the house, but we rent so he doesn't have to mow the lawn or anything either. We kind of have an unspoken agreement about what each person does based on what is easy for him to do without messing up my (admittedly very anal) organizational system. :)
Sarah 10-16-06 Luciano 11-27-08
In our household, we both work too. The way I see it, it's my responsiblity. But if he wants it done quicker, he can get a start on things for me. It's very helpful when he chips in.
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