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FEELING LOST PLEASE HELP!!!!!!

Posted by on Jul. 31, 2013 at 9:23 PM
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Hello friends I have been stuck in a sticky stop for a while now PLEASE help!! I was a very young mother when I became pregnant for the first time. I was just turning 16 when I had him. I took care of my son 100% and I am very proud on myself for that even if I did make a mistake my haveing sex at a young age. My son is going to be 11 this october and my daughter will be 4 in october as well. My boyfriend has been there 100% for my son like his own and im so greatful for that I no not many men would do that!! However my boyfriend and I have been together for 10 years in sept. we are buying our own house and we make enought money I have always want to get married to him. I have pushed him to get married for a couple years. Well he did propose to me 4 years ago this x-mas eve at his parents house (while everyone was there when his family and i do not always get along because im to out spoken) that made me a little upset and after the fact I found out that my mother did not no anything about it or any of my family!! well I started to plan the wedding but he wanted nothing to do with any of it :( I try talking to him to see what he wants and no matter what I said or did he always pushed me aside. I have given up on getting mar ried :( I want to very much but he says he does but I feel he is just saying it to shut me up, My kids are 7 years apart I want another baby so badly but I do not want to my daughter to be 7 before we have another. I no Im very young and have all the time in the world but I do not want to wait any longer. He on the other hand does not want another baby at all there is not even a (maybe later). I am so heart broken over this I feel like he is holding somthing back from me but I have tried talking to him so many time but I get nothing out of him. sadly his mother passed aways on may 11th a day before mothers day :( I want to try talk to him more about how I feel but I dont know if it is too soon to try and talk to him about all of this when I how how he feels bout it. I have tried to push it out of my mind but i JUST CANT!! Please help me!!!!!!!!!

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Mommyoftwo0711
by on Jul. 31, 2013 at 9:31 PM

Losing someone is very hard and one does not get over it. BUT I would definitely bring up the subject again. My boyfriend (well ex now)and I have 4 kids (2 are his and 2 are mine). I asked him if he wanted any more kids and he said no. I told him that I wanted more and he said he would give me what I wanted. People can change their minds. Just talk to him. If this is something you really want I don't think you should just push it out of your mind or give up. Good luck honey and I hope the best for you.

proudmommy712
by on Jul. 31, 2013 at 9:35 PM

 

Thank you very much!

Quoting Mommyoftwo0711:

Losing someone is very hard and one does not get over it. BUT I would definitely bring up the subject again. My boyfriend (well ex now)and I have 4 kids (2 are his and 2 are mine). I asked him if he wanted any more kids and he said no. I told him that I wanted more and he said he would give me what I wanted. People can change their minds. Just talk to him. If this is something you really want I don't think you should just push it out of your mind or give up. Good luck honey and I hope the best for you.


 

NDADanceMom
by on Jul. 31, 2013 at 9:56 PM
If its the baby thing that bothers you i told my husband no more after 3. He accepted that over a decade ago. I agreed to one more about a year ago and am pregnant with number 4
LavenderMom23
by on Jul. 31, 2013 at 10:00 PM
If he loves you, he'll consider your needs too. Although I sincerely hope this guy isn't wasting your time with empty promises.
Marabara
by on Aug. 1, 2013 at 12:33 AM
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It doesn't sound like he wants to hear that you would like more children. Maybe ask if he's willing to go talk to a counselor or pastor about your lives and where/how he feels your lives are going? If he doesn't want to talk about it with a third party, I would be wondering if he's thinking about moving on as a single person. A third party would be able to bring things up which he might not want to be faced. It would be awful if you got pg and he left.
MrsL8n
by on Aug. 1, 2013 at 12:45 AM
I would have a very hard time signing the papers to commit to 30 more years with someone who can't commit to marrying me. Do you really want to settle for a life that doesn't feel complete without marriage?
KellyNips
by on Aug. 1, 2013 at 7:32 AM
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I'm sorry, but I don't get this -- you are not married and you want another child.  you have never been married and you want a third illegitimate child?  can you provide for any of these children?  like plan for a college education for each of them?  you sound like a VERY selfish immature woman.  i would totally back off from pushing the boyfriend for anything and get your life in order.

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by Sapphire Member on Aug. 1, 2013 at 1:51 PM

Hi there,
When you can try talking to him & sharing yoru thoughts,
However I would definitely wonder about themarriage thing too.
Hang in there & good luck :)

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