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Please be honest what would you do? Call cps or let my mil handle it (UPDATE)

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My husband aunt is a lazy no good for nothing mom. My mil came over here with my husband little cousins. Well the oldest haven't had a bath, he had on shoes that were way to flipping small for him. He was saying he didn't eat and that they were hungry so we gave them something to eat. Then he said they didn't have school clothes so i looked into my boys closet and got them a lot of clothes that were way to small for my boys and a few pairs of shoes He was saying he has been having a ear ache and has been waking up in the middle of the night crying because his ear hurt so bad. This is a shame that the aunt is lazy like she is. Well come to find out my mil just to me she is on meth and the boyfriend.


I'm going to talk to my husband and see if he wants to see if we could get those kids. I know she wont sign them over to us because she gets welfare for them and she don't want to lose that money she has coming in.


What would you do?



UPDATE: I called this morning and told them everything that's been going on. She said she is writing up a report and they will decide if they will go out there. I'm really hoping they will go out there.

by on Aug. 4, 2013 at 8:17 PM
Replies (11-20):
tears30314
by on Aug. 4, 2013 at 8:55 PM
Just call cps but tell them ur willing to take the kiddos while she gets right.
strictmomhere
by Platinum Member on Aug. 4, 2013 at 8:55 PM
Yes i think so

Quoting godsgirl26:

I have to have a address if i report it right? Im going to the address from my mil.

Quoting strictmomhere:

Call and report it poor kids:(


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ditsyjo
by Gold Member on Aug. 4, 2013 at 9:37 PM

Quoting godsgirl26:

i don't think my mil will take the kids because she works. Now we have talked to my mil about taking the kids but she talked my husband out of it and said she will handle it but she hasn't at all.

The mom will not work with us at all she hates me and i know this but i dont care.

Quoting ditsyjo:

is your mother in law going to try to get them or...talk to your mother in law and the 2 of you should come up with a plan to help them that's for sure.



then you have to do what you what you have to do.
godsgirl26
by ♥Char2theMaine♥ on Aug. 4, 2013 at 9:38 PM

Okay got the address from my mil so i will be calling tomorrow.

Quoting strictmomhere:

Yes i think so

Quoting godsgirl26:

I have to have a address if i report it right? Im going to the address from my mil.

Quoting strictmomhere:

Call and report it poor kids:(



godsgirl26
by ♥Char2theMaine♥ on Aug. 4, 2013 at 9:39 PM

I know which i will be calling tomorrow.

Quoting ditsyjo:


Quoting godsgirl26:

i don't think my mil will take the kids because she works. Now we have talked to my mil about taking the kids but she talked my husband out of it and said she will handle it but she hasn't at all.

The mom will not work with us at all she hates me and i know this but i dont care.

Quoting ditsyjo:

is your mother in law going to try to get them or...talk to your mother in law and the 2 of you should come up with a plan to help them that's for sure.



then you have to do what you what you have to do.


Momofmenagerie
by on Aug. 4, 2013 at 10:42 PM
Never assume someone else will take care of it or do the right thing. There's a huge apathy epedemic ( or the " I don't want to get involved" sickness)

Call, ask your mil to call.... Two calls bring a stronger case, but even if she doesn't , you CALL. Be sure to mention you suspect the older child needs medical attention when you do.
NDADanceMom
by on Aug. 4, 2013 at 10:51 PM

Im a teacher and required by law to report the drug use.  As far as the not enough food or clothes, if it was my sister I would buy what they needed short term and work to geet them the support they need for the long term.  

kellysp6637
by on Aug. 4, 2013 at 11:01 PM

 I'd report her immediately and let social services know I could be available for foster care if needed.  I hate to say that, but if you don't do anything and something happens to those children you will never forgive yourself, I know I wouldn't.  Honestly, I wouldn't rely too much on the MIL...she really doesn't have any authority to do anything.

I wish you the very best of luck....that must be very difficult.  Kudos to you for stepping up and trying to look out for them. 

Quoting godsgirl26:

My husband aunt is a lazy no good for nothing mom. My mil came over here with my husband little cousins. Well the oldest haven't had a bath, he had on shoes that were way to flipping small for him. He was saying he didn't eat and that they were hungry so we gave them something to eat. Then he said they didn't have school clothes so i looked into my boys closet and got them a lot of clothes that were way to small for my boys and a few pairs of shoes He was saying he has been having a ear ache and has been waking up in the middle of the night crying because his ear hurt so bad. This is a shame that the aunt is lazy like she is. Well come to find out my mil just to me she is on meth and the boyfriend.

 

I'm going to talk to my husband and see if he wants to see if we could get those kids. I know she wont sign them over to us because she gets welfare for them and she don't want to lose that money she has coming in.

 

What would you do?

 

JP-StrongForTwo
by on Aug. 4, 2013 at 11:12 PM

Honestly a case like this can go either way. 

If they can prove she is on drugs, easy peasy. 

but if not, then its just a case of lazy mother. if they cant prove that the kids are malnourished, or unsupervised, i dont know if they can do anything :( many many parents let their kids wear ratty unfitted clothing and stay dirty, and keep their children. 


but absolutely report it!!! im not saying you shouldnt. do it! 

godsgirl26
by ♥Char2theMaine♥ on Aug. 4, 2013 at 11:24 PM

I didn't know they were on drugs until today when my mil came over here. My mil use to go over there all the time and buy food for them but the BF eats it all.

Quoting NDADanceMom:

Im a teacher and required by law to report the drug use.  As far as the not enough food or clothes, if it was my sister I would buy what they needed short term and work to geet them the support they need for the long term.  


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