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am I wrong for being so upset?

Posted by on Aug. 16, 2013 at 8:50 PM
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Ok so I'm 23 weeks pregnant and since I became pregnant my sex life has sucked. . I have to beg dh to have sex with me and even then it is maybe once every 3 weeks or so.... anyway today I trued to get him in the mood hair make up candles dress up fore play tge whole nune yards. . Kuds are at my step moms for tge night so I thought sibce we had the house to our selves and nothing happens.. he goes to get a shower I went in the bathroom to wash my face n find him watching porn and "taking care of his self" I'm so hurt I'm in tears I feel like I'm not wgat he wants anymore and I'm so tired of being told he isn't in the mood n yet ge is doing this behind my back I have talked to him about how I feel n the lack of intamcy in our marriage lately n now this I just want to give up.. pkease help wgat should I do??
by on Aug. 16, 2013 at 8:50 PM
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MrsCarnes88
by Member on Aug. 16, 2013 at 8:51 PM
Sry about the typos sent from my new phone
Bulldog-Mommy10
by on Aug. 16, 2013 at 8:51 PM
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Is he nervous because of the baby? Is this his first? I know sometimes guys can be weird about that - will he talk about the problem?
calsmom62
by Silver Member on Aug. 16, 2013 at 8:53 PM
likely he is uncomfortable having sex with a baby in there. be patient. hes afraid maybe of hurting you or the baby. or he is trying to deal with being a father and its stressing him out so he is avoiding intimacy with you.
gvs0289
by on Aug. 16, 2013 at 9:18 PM

Is this your 1st child with him?  You said Kids are up stairs asleep?  If this isn't the 1st child with him, was he like this with thee other children?

jb0520
by Silver Member on Aug. 16, 2013 at 9:30 PM
Some men don't like having sex with pregnant women
goddiddlyumshis
by on Aug. 16, 2013 at 9:31 PM
Some men get freaked out. I've never been in that position, but I'm sorry you are.
Explain to him he won't hurt the baby. Baby is extremely protected in there.
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Breekl
by on Aug. 16, 2013 at 9:40 PM
Wow..I personally would be offended..that baby in there is his and he needs to be there for you...my husband loves it when I'm pregnant.....I'm sorry you are having to go through this..have a talk with him..maybe it scares him..but what ever the reason a talk must be had
katherine50
by on Aug. 17, 2013 at 12:50 AM
I agree. I would talk to him explain. I also didn't have that problem actually I kind of wanted to be left alone sometimes.


Quoting Breekl:

Wow..I personally would be offended..that baby in there is his and he needs to be there for you...my husband loves it when I'm pregnant.....I'm sorry you are having to go through this..have a talk with him..maybe it scares him..but what ever the reason a talk must be had

jenniferv27
by Member on Aug. 17, 2013 at 11:27 AM
I honestly wish I had that problem. I think my husband wanted it more when I was pregnant then not... I'm sorry your going thorough this. I myself didn't really like it when I was pregnant. All u can do is talk to him and let him know how u r feeling. If he still chooses to not pay u any attention then try sleeping in another room or something to see if he gets the hint.
MrsCarnes88
by Member on Aug. 17, 2013 at 5:16 PM
This is our first child together and I have trued talking to him n nothing I even had ob tell him it was safe I have talked to mil and sil and I don't kno what else to do other then be mad st him til Christmas when baby is born n I'm done recovering from my c section
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