She's putting her children at risk! I need advice here please! ***UPDATE IN GREEN***
The long and short of this situation is, I met this girl when I was 17 (nearly 18), through the guy I was dating. They had been friends for sometime. My relationship with him ended, but I remained friends with her. Well, shortly after I split up with him, I got a phone call from her saying "Oh we're together now, we're moving to Kentucky." She already had a little girl and then they had a son together. I lost contact with her for a while but after we started talking (maybe about 3 years later) she told me that the reason she left him is because he got sent to prison for child sex abuse. I was glad that she was away from him, not just for sake, but for her children's sake as well. Fast forward to last weekend-she and I were talking online and she told me that he was out of prison and had written to her, begging her to believe him that he was innocent and begging to be in his son's life and trying to get back with her. She asked me what I thought, so I point blank told her "Steer clear of him, he's bad news." That's what I thought. I was honest with her. She seemed to agree. Now tonight she tells me that she has seen "proof" from him that he was innocent and she knows for a FACT that he never messed with her daughter (now keep in mind, this man was accused AND convicted of raping a child under the age of 5, and at the time they were together, her daughter was only about 2 or 3). She's all of a sudden "torn" she doesn't know what to do, she still loves him, and she believes him that he never did anything he was accused of. I told her tonight not to EVER mention my name to this man-I want nothing to do with him, he's scum in my eyes. After me saying that she STILL wants my advice on whether or not she should not only let him into his son's life and back into her daughter's life, but she keeps asking me if she should give him a second chance. I don't know what to say. Do I tell her to work it out on her own, or tell her what I think? I really don't think she's going to listen if I tell her "don't do it" so in a sense I may be wasting my time, but I'm so concerned that she is putting her kids at risk. She and her children live with her parents (she has MS and her parents have custody of her kids). I really am not sure what to say to her. What do you think?
***I've spoken my peace on the matter, I've laid out what I had in my heart to this girl and she still thinks it's the right thing to do. Her parents have PERMANENT custody of her two children. A week ago, she point blank just asked me what I thought of it. I said "I don't think you should have anything to do with him at all. He's a registered sex offender and you are putting your children in harms way." She didn't agree. Now she's moving from Clanton, AL to Kentucky to be with him. She said he has his own place and they are both ready to "make this work". I point blank told her "Do NOT ever even think about bringing the freak around me EVER" Her response? "Okay, I have to get off of Facebook now so I can call him. Goodnight." I'm done. I'll be her friend on Facebook and I'll be her friend but I won't allow her around my house (Luckily she doesn't know where I live and luckily the kids are staying with her parents.) I just don't understand this girl. I think she is making a HUGE mistake but what can I do? Lord be with her is all I can say***