I'm looking for some ideas on a baby shower gift for a teen mom. Right now she's with her boyfriend, but they're in no way financially stable and her mother tells me she has nothing for the baby yet (she's more concerned about buying designer maternity clothes with what little money she comes by so she can look cute).
The thing is, I want to give her something that she'll need and use, but that also won't come across as "whatever I threw into the cart as I walked by". I'm big on making sure a gift is well thought out, but I don't want to go overboard and "reward" her for getting knocked up and buy her stuff I never had for my own kid or things that are cute but non-functional. Her sister is also a teen mom with 2 kids, but I guess there aren't any hand-me-downs or anything because she is also unemployed and single with 2 different baby daddies that don't pay child support so she sells what her kids outgrow/don't use.
I'm looking at about $30, she's having a boy, and though I know diapers and wipes are going to be the most useful thing for her I also know that my family already looks at me like I think I'm better than them and if give her a gift like that (because seriously, she's a teenager without a job and diapers are the most useful thing for a mom in that situation!) they're going to view it not as being helpful and realistic, but as being condescending.
What would you get a teen mom for her baby shower?