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what if your SO spanked you on the butt ( not in a playful way lol) but bc he was upset with you & calmy spanked you telling you what you did was wrong & then discussed it with you...?
 is that abuse? or discipline? 

 LOL its a SPIN OFF post to  spanking.. no this is NOT my dh or my situtation. I thoguht it was pretty obvious only  like 2 of you knew it was a spin off.

 im  discussing the  idea of you being hit by  someone & spaning your kid.. its abusive if it happens to us as adults but a kid, a younger , smaller  being its " spanking" and  disipline to some.. im curious to hear any responses.

 again NO this is not dh he never  has or would lay a hand on me.. unless playfully of course lol

by on Sep. 4, 2013 at 12:27 AM
Replies (41-50):
strontium
by on Sep. 4, 2013 at 2:02 AM
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I think you should have been spanked...across the face with a baseball bat. You are nothing but a judgy "never do wrong" self entitled cunt wad. Who the fuck are you to tell anyone how to raise their kids? Full on beatings that leave marks...ok. Thats an issue. I think you need to take a trip down south...where adults i know where raised on pickin their own switches off the tree in the yard. A lil hand smack on the ass isnt too big of a deal. Now excuse me while i go cuddle with my poor mistreated son and give him all the hugs and kisses and eskimo kisses he can handle. Because im an awful mother of course


Quoting Imjustinsmommy:

yes, every child is different. so some kids are more spank worthy than others b/c they are different?

Quoting strontium:

well thats great for you =)


im glad you have your own style of parenting. every child is different. 

Quoting Imjustinsmommy:

hmm. my boys got it when i said NO & removed them from whatever it was they were touching or  getting into.  its possible.

Quoting strontium:

I figured it was a spin off. 

I spank kids because if I get that ass they know... OH HEY... If I play in the litter box... or OH HEY If I act a damn fool and jump on the furniture after mommy tells me "no" and distracts me multiple times with toys and interaction... Im gonna get my butt smacked. and *GASPITY FUCKING GASP* he gets it! My little one hasnt messed around in the litter box in almost 2 months.. and guess what... It only took 2 smacks on the (fully clothed and diapered) ass and a couple smacks on the back of the hand to get it.

Quoting Imjustinsmommy:

see update to be clear why i asked.

Quoting strontium:

thats fucking weird... unless you are into that "daddy/daughter" thing.






notjstasocermom
by Samantha on Sep. 4, 2013 at 7:54 AM

totally not the same thing.

notjstasocermom
by Samantha on Sep. 4, 2013 at 8:11 AM

 

How old are your kids?

Quoting Imjustinsmommy:

no. i consider that a cool down time which they normally dont  do for themselves  as we do as adults when we walk away when we need to. i use time outs when  he needs to calm down. i talk to him when  he is doing something  wrong  i dont time out for  those. to me its different.

Quoting ditsyjo:

 

would you consider putting a child in time out appropriate for a child?

Quoting Imjustinsmommy:

inappropiate yes.. i agree , odd  yes lol unless  youre into that .  but abuse ,no it wouldnt be called abuse

Quoting ditsyjo:

 

is takeing a childs property mature..? making them sit in the corner? children need some sort of disipline...if they don't get it they do not thrive. any form of disiplin we use on a child would be considered inapproriate between 2 adults 

Quoting Imjustinsmommy:

and spanking is mature?

Quoting ditsyjo:

 

it would also be considered abuse for one adult to force another adult to sit in time out and if not abuse definately extemely controling to take away  the privleges or propety of another adult as a punishment... or any number of things that an adult may do to teach a childhow to behave and what is expected of them. the difference is not the size but the maturity of the person involved...

Quoting Imjustinsmommy:

what if your SO spanked you on the butt ( not in a playful way lol) but bc he was upset with you & calmy spanked you telling you what you did was wrong & then discussed it with you...?
 is that abuse? or discipline? 

 LOL its a SPIN OFF post to  spanking.. no this is NOT my dh or my situtation. I thoguht it was pretty obvious only  like 2 of you knew it was a spin off.

 im  discussing the  idea of you being hit by  someone & spaning your kid.. its abusive if it happens to us as adults but a kid, a younger , smaller  being its " spanking" and  disipline to some.. im curious to hear any responses.

 again NO this is not dh he never  has or would lay a hand on me.. unless playfully of course lol

 

 


 

 


 

 



 

Imjustinsmommy
by on Sep. 4, 2013 at 10:22 AM

easy there. this is a conversation  you're stating your opinions im stating mine. not telling anyone how to do anything ive answered  questions  ASKED of me how I handle it not saying you should. nobody called you a  " awful" mother. you called me manyt things & wished for me to be " spanked in the face with a bat??  b/c im a cunt wad ? LOL are you kidding me?   you know  that's against policies. .. oh & you have NO idea what mychildhood was like. 

Quoting strontium:

I think you should have been spanked...across the face with a baseball bat. You are nothing but a judgy "never do wrong" self entitled cunt wad. Who the fuck are you to tell anyone how to raise their kids? Full on beatings that leave marks...ok. Thats an issue. I think you need to take a trip down south...where adults i know where raised on pickin their own switches off the tree in the yard. A lil hand smack on the ass isnt too big of a deal. Now excuse me while i go cuddle with my poor mistreated son and give him all the hugs and kisses and eskimo kisses he can handle. Because im an awful mother of course


Quoting Imjustinsmommy:

yes, every child is different. so some kids are more spank worthy than others b/c they are different?

Quoting strontium:

well thats great for you =)


im glad you have your own style of parenting. every child is different. 

Quoting Imjustinsmommy:

hmm. my boys got it when i said NO & removed them from whatever it was they were touching or  getting into.  its possible.

Quoting strontium:

I figured it was a spin off. 

I spank kids because if I get that ass they know... OH HEY... If I play in the litter box... or OH HEY If I act a damn fool and jump on the furniture after mommy tells me "no" and distracts me multiple times with toys and interaction... Im gonna get my butt smacked. and *GASPITY FUCKING GASP* he gets it! My little one hasnt messed around in the litter box in almost 2 months.. and guess what... It only took 2 smacks on the (fully clothed and diapered) ass and a couple smacks on the back of the hand to get it.

Quoting Imjustinsmommy:

see update to be clear why i asked.

Quoting strontium:

thats fucking weird... unless you are into that "daddy/daughter" thing.







strontium
by on Sep. 4, 2013 at 10:27 AM
Excuse my whiskey feuled rage.

Quoting Imjustinsmommy:

easy there. this is a conversation  you're stating your opinions im stating mine. not telling anyone how to do anything ive answered  questions  ASKED of me how I handle it not saying you should. nobody called you a  " awful" mother. you called me manyt things & wished for me to be " spanked in the face with a bat??  b/c im a cunt wad ? LOL are you kidding me?   you know  that's against policies. .. oh & you have NO idea what mychildhood was like. 

Quoting strontium:

I think you should have been spanked...across the face with a baseball bat. You are nothing but a judgy "never do wrong" self entitled cunt wad. Who the fuck are you to tell anyone how to raise their kids? Full on beatings that leave marks...ok. Thats an issue. I think you need to take a trip down south...where adults i know where raised on pickin their own switches off the tree in the yard. A lil hand smack on the ass isnt too big of a deal. Now excuse me while i go cuddle with my poor mistreated son and give him all the hugs and kisses and eskimo kisses he can handle. Because im an awful mother of course





Quoting Imjustinsmommy:

yes, every child is different. so some kids are more spank worthy than others b/c they are different?

Quoting strontium:

well thats great for you =)


im glad you have your own style of parenting. every child is different. 

Quoting Imjustinsmommy:

hmm. my boys got it when i said NO & removed them from whatever it was they were touching or  getting into.  its possible.

Quoting strontium:

I figured it was a spin off. 

I spank kids because if I get that ass they know... OH HEY... If I play in the litter box... or OH HEY If I act a damn fool and jump on the furniture after mommy tells me "no" and distracts me multiple times with toys and interaction... Im gonna get my butt smacked. and *GASPITY FUCKING GASP* he gets it! My little one hasnt messed around in the litter box in almost 2 months.. and guess what... It only took 2 smacks on the (fully clothed and diapered) ass and a couple smacks on the back of the hand to get it.

Quoting Imjustinsmommy:

see update to be clear why i asked.

Quoting strontium:

thats fucking weird... unless you are into that "daddy/daughter" thing.







sondamom0828
by on Sep. 4, 2013 at 10:40 AM

just because you spank, it doesn't make it abuse.  There is a big difference.  Just like kids who bite. Sometimes it takes being bit back to stop biting (I was a huge biter and when my mom finally bit me back, I stopped). Even CPS says it is okay to spank your kid (my daughters school called sinceshe had missed so much school due to numerous pneumonia and hospitalizations and I happened to ask when my daughter was acting up-she is special needs and has a low immune system).

Fullhouse1168
by on Sep. 4, 2013 at 10:41 AM
Rofl dh threatened to spank me once...he grabbed a belt and threatened to whoop me. I literally lol and said if he was going to be my daddy I'll call my real one and see what he thinks about this. My dad is 6ft2 250lb ex boxer. Needless to say we never again discussed me being spanked. :)
Imjustinsmommy
by on Sep. 4, 2013 at 10:50 AM

he's 5.

Quoting notjstasocermom:


How old are your kids?

Quoting Imjustinsmommy:

no. i consider that a cool down time which they normally dont  do for themselves  as we do as adults when we walk away when we need to. i use time outs when  he needs to calm down. i talk to him when  he is doing something  wrong  i dont time out for  those. to me its different.

Quoting ditsyjo:


would you consider putting a child in time out appropriate for a child?

Quoting Imjustinsmommy:

inappropiate yes.. i agree , odd  yes lol unless  youre into that .  but abuse ,no it wouldnt be called abuse

Quoting ditsyjo:


is takeing a childs property mature..? making them sit in the corner? children need some sort of disipline...if they don't get it they do not thrive. any form of disiplin we use on a child would be considered inapproriate between 2 adults 

Quoting Imjustinsmommy:

and spanking is mature?

Quoting ditsyjo:


it would also be considered abuse for one adult to force another adult to sit in time out and if not abuse definately extemely controling to take away  the privleges or propety of another adult as a punishment... or any number of things that an adult may do to teach a childhow to behave and what is expected of them. the difference is not the size but the maturity of the person involved...

Quoting Imjustinsmommy:

what if your SO spanked you on the butt ( not in a playful way lol) but bc he was upset with you & calmy spanked you telling you what you did was wrong & then discussed it with you...?
 is that abuse? or discipline? 

 LOL its a SPIN OFF post to  spanking.. no this is NOT my dh or my situtation. I thoguht it was pretty obvious only  like 2 of you knew it was a spin off.

 im  discussing the  idea of you being hit by  someone & spaning your kid.. its abusive if it happens to us as adults but a kid, a younger , smaller  being its " spanking" and  disipline to some.. im curious to hear any responses.

 again NO this is not dh he never  has or would lay a hand on me.. unless playfully of course lol













Imjustinsmommy
by on Sep. 4, 2013 at 10:51 AM

LOL!! are you kidding? thats funny its morning here. my god please be kidding or having fun LOL 

Quoting strontium:

Excuse my whiskey feuled rage.

Quoting Imjustinsmommy:

easy there. this is a conversation  you're stating your opinions im stating mine. not telling anyone how to do anything ive answered  questions  ASKED of me how I handle it not saying you should. nobody called you a  " awful" mother. you called me manyt things & wished for me to be " spanked in the face with a bat??  b/c im a cunt wad ? LOL are you kidding me?   you know  that's against policies. .. oh & you have NO idea what mychildhood was like. 

Quoting strontium:

I think you should have been spanked...across the face with a baseball bat. You are nothing but a judgy "never do wrong" self entitled cunt wad. Who the fuck are you to tell anyone how to raise their kids? Full on beatings that leave marks...ok. Thats an issue. I think you need to take a trip down south...where adults i know where raised on pickin their own switches off the tree in the yard. A lil hand smack on the ass isnt too big of a deal. Now excuse me while i go cuddle with my poor mistreated son and give him all the hugs and kisses and eskimo kisses he can handle. Because im an awful mother of course





Quoting Imjustinsmommy:

yes, every child is different. so some kids are more spank worthy than others b/c they are different?

Quoting strontium:

well thats great for you =)


im glad you have your own style of parenting. every child is different. 

Quoting Imjustinsmommy:

hmm. my boys got it when i said NO & removed them from whatever it was they were touching or  getting into.  its possible.

Quoting strontium:

I figured it was a spin off. 

I spank kids because if I get that ass they know... OH HEY... If I play in the litter box... or OH HEY If I act a damn fool and jump on the furniture after mommy tells me "no" and distracts me multiple times with toys and interaction... Im gonna get my butt smacked. and *GASPITY FUCKING GASP* he gets it! My little one hasnt messed around in the litter box in almost 2 months.. and guess what... It only took 2 smacks on the (fully clothed and diapered) ass and a couple smacks on the back of the hand to get it.

Quoting Imjustinsmommy:

see update to be clear why i asked.

Quoting strontium:

thats fucking weird... unless you are into that "daddy/daughter" thing.








notjstasocermom
by Samantha on Sep. 4, 2013 at 11:39 AM

 oh well then rolling on floor


Quoting Imjustinsmommy:

he's 5.

Quoting notjstasocermom:

 

How old are your kids?

Quoting Imjustinsmommy:

no. i consider that a cool down time which they normally dont  do for themselves  as we do as adults when we walk away when we need to. i use time outs when  he needs to calm down. i talk to him when  he is doing something  wrong  i dont time out for  those. to me its different.

Quoting ditsyjo:

 

would you consider putting a child in time out appropriate for a child?

Quoting Imjustinsmommy:

inappropiate yes.. i agree , odd  yes lol unless  youre into that .  but abuse ,no it wouldnt be called abuse

Quoting ditsyjo:

 

is takeing a childs property mature..? making them sit in the corner? children need some sort of disipline...if they don't get it they do not thrive. any form of disiplin we use on a child would be considered inapproriate between 2 adults 

Quoting Imjustinsmommy:

and spanking is mature?

Quoting ditsyjo:

 

it would also be considered abuse for one adult to force another adult to sit in time out and if not abuse definately extemely controling to take away  the privleges or propety of another adult as a punishment... or any number of things that an adult may do to teach a childhow to behave and what is expected of them. the difference is not the size but the maturity of the person involved...

Quoting Imjustinsmommy:

what if your SO spanked you on the butt ( not in a playful way lol) but bc he was upset with you & calmy spanked you telling you what you did was wrong & then discussed it with you...?
 is that abuse? or discipline? 

 LOL its a SPIN OFF post to  spanking.. no this is NOT my dh or my situtation. I thoguht it was pretty obvious only  like 2 of you knew it was a spin off.

 im  discussing the  idea of you being hit by  someone & spaning your kid.. its abusive if it happens to us as adults but a kid, a younger , smaller  being its " spanking" and  disipline to some.. im curious to hear any responses.

 again NO this is not dh he never  has or would lay a hand on me.. unless playfully of course lol

 

 


 

 


 

 


 

 



 

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