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So I was talking to a customer a while back about child abuse and about how what is considered abuse has changed over the last several years.
Back when I was a kid (which wasnt realistically TOO many years ago, I'm 24) if you did something stupid and wrong, you got spanked. Occasionally a slight smuck upside the head just hard enough to let you know to get your shit together.
Now you spank your child and god forbid the sky is falling. Call CPS!!!
"Leashes" (this is what actually sparked the conversation)
Back then if tyou had your kid on a line, that was abuse. If you walked away from your mom in a store and got lost, the experience stuck and you damn sure weren't letting mom out of your sight again.
Now it is considered good parenting. Dont get me wrong I am all for this one depending on the situation. I have used one for my dd when we go somewhere I know is going to be nutso busy
I dont know about you other moms out there but I figure if it worked for my mom, and her mom, and her mom, and so on and so forth... and we all turned out fine, must be doing something right. I see kids out all the time who run the show because their parents dont say no/dicipline. I raise my kids the same way I was raised and she knows that shit dont fly.
How about you? Any other differences you can think of between then and now. I am actually thinking of writing a school paper on this topic but finding info is kind of hard so I havent settled on a topic yet.
Edit** How you raise your kids is none of my business. Thats not where I was going with this post. Is there any other examples of things you have seen change in the way child abuse is viewed from the time you were a kid until the time you had kids?
I should also state. I dont smack my child and she is 5 years old and has been spanked all of maybe 3 times. Time outs work fantastic.
I was more trying to go along with the lines of "How has what is viewed as abuse changed?" then "this is how I raise my kids"