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Would this annoy you. To assume something is ok without asking you first

Posted by on Sep. 13, 2013 at 4:41 PM
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Dh seen the Neurologist in June. Dh has MS. So he goes twice a year to monitor his meds and the MS itself. So at each appointment we schedule the next one. So I make the next one for December 26th. Day after Christmas. Figuring I don't work that day. He won't go alone I help dh unload his scooter or a walker so he can get to the appointment. Today I get a letter saying they changed the appointment to 3:15 on December 3rd. That is a Tuesday. I will be working. I can't take off. We need every penny of my pay checks to help with living expenses. I only get like 2 paid personal days a year to use and 2 paid sick days. I was saving them for if I really get sick. Who is to know when I might get the flue or something and need time off. I always schedule appointments on my time off from work. It says if this is not ok. Call some woman back at the listed number. Ok I do that. The woman says Oh so that date is not ok? Yeah. That why didn't someone call first? I was thinking. Don't assume something is ok. You know what that makes. A ass out of you and me. As the expression goes. So we are picking a new appointment time. I said what is the latest time you take appointments. She said 3:15. I said I'll be just getting home from work at that time. That if he could be seen at 4pm. Then that day would be fine. But since not. I need a new time. I took one January 7th. I think I don't work that day. That will be holiday/semester break still. During that time work is by sign up. I guess I will just say I can work all the days but January 7th.
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krista778
by Gold Member on Sep. 13, 2013 at 5:23 PM

I HATE it when my neuro switches my appointment dates/times without asking me! I try to schedule mine in the mornings when I have energy to do things because as the day goes on I get tired and my legs don't work worse than they already are.

Sorry your DH has this horrid disease. I hope his meds are slowing it down like they are supposed to.

pinkcoffeecup
by Gold Member on Sep. 13, 2013 at 5:26 PM

Dh has good days and bad ones. Right now he''s not doing as bad as sometimes.  The heat affects him big time.  Even switching the appointment didn't help me much.  But it was best I could get.  The neurologist is stopping working on Fridays.  Fridays were my best day to make appointments.  I rarely work Fridays.



Quoting krista778:

I HATE it when my neuro switches my appointment dates/times without asking me! I try to schedule mine in the mornings when I have energy to do things because as the day goes on I get tired and my legs don't work worse than they already are.

Sorry your DH has this horrid disease. I hope his meds are slowing it down like they are supposed to.



lenashark
by Bronze Member on Sep. 13, 2013 at 5:29 PM

Our doctors always ask first if they need to reschedule. Not everyone can just take a day whenever they want. 

pinkcoffeecup
by Gold Member on Sep. 13, 2013 at 5:50 PM

That's what I say.  If something forces them to change a appointment. They should call to say so.  Not send a letter. Oh by the way your appointment was changed to this.  The woman seemed annoyed when I called back. Saying what she gave us is not good. 

Lovemyshadows
by on Sep. 13, 2013 at 6:01 PM

They did tell you, that's what the letter was.  They also gave you the option to change it.  I don't see the problem.

pinkcoffeecup
by Gold Member on Sep. 13, 2013 at 6:42 PM

Instead of the letter they should of called.  When I called to change it. The woman acted annoyed. Oh you don't want that date?  

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Quoting Lovemyshadows:

They did tell you, that's what the letter was.  They also gave you the option to change it.  I don't see the problem.



Lovemyshadows
by on Sep. 13, 2013 at 6:59 PM


Quoting pinkcoffeecup:

Instead of the letter they should of called.  When I called to change it. The woman acted annoyed. Oh you don't want that date?  

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Quoting Lovemyshadows:

They did tell you, that's what the letter was.  They also gave you the option to change it.  I don't see the problem.



That's the way they chose to let you know.  Perhaps they don't have time to call?  They gave you plenty of notice.  She sounded annoyed to you?  Did you sound annoyed with her?  I just fail to see the problem.  

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pinkcoffeecup
by Gold Member on Sep. 13, 2013 at 7:12 PM

No I was not annoyed with anyone. I politely asked them to change the date and time. That is when I get told Oh so you don't want this date?  That is not normal practice for them to send a letter. They usually call.  They told me when I made the initial appointment. They would call if it had to be changed.  That the doctor might be going on vacation the original date we picked.   I can see sending a reminder letter to say you have an appointment.  But not to say it has been changed.   Everything else they handle by phone call.   It takes the same amount of work or time to call someone as to type out a letter and mail it.

NDADanceMom
by on Sep. 13, 2013 at 7:47 PM
Eh. I see a couple in demand specialists. You can pick the day but not the time. Appts are made in order. If it doesn't work they tell you the name of a less popular doctor.
pinkcoffeecup
by Gold Member on Sep. 14, 2013 at 8:22 AM

I don't think this is a high demand doctor.  Dh has had this neurologist a number of years.  He's older.  I think he cut his schedule back.  Maybe in the next few years he might retire.  Dh likes this doctor.  He's like a old country doctor.  He'll take all the time you need to go over things.  He don't rush through an appointment.   I might of been ok with the letter if it just said please call to change your appointment time.  But to just pick something without asking I felt was not right.  I almost through the letter out. Well it was in a hospital letter headed envelope.  It looked like stuff they always send out.  Looking for donations to some charity thing.  It was in fairly small print.  Time sensitive material about your appointment. 

Quoting NDADanceMom:

Eh. I see a couple in demand specialists. You can pick the day but not the time. Appts are made in order. If it doesn't work they tell you the name of a less popular doctor.



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