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Should teachers be able to physically punish your children?

Posted by on Sep. 19, 2013 at 9:03 AM
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School Wants Parents to Sign Permission Slips Allowing Teachers to Hit Kids

by Kiri Blakeley

When you send your child off to school, you're generally not even imagining that a teacher could smack your kid. Or are you? Apparently, this still goes on to the extent that at least one school system sent home an "opt-out" form to parents, to let them choose whether or not their kids could be subjected to corporal punishment. A mother was so appalled that she sent the letter to a media outlet. According to the school system:

Parents or legal guardians who do not want corporal punishment to be administered to their child/children must inform the principal of the school on an annual basis.

I'll be honest. I had no idea this stuff was still happening and that it's so widespread. But apparently, it is.

K.J. Dell'Antonia writes in The New York Times that corporal punishment is still allowed in 19 states. And not even just allowed. Some parents actually want this for their kids.

The school that sent home the corporal punishment permission slip says that "many parents still wish for this to be done, hence the permission form."

Wow. Just. Wow.

The states that allow this form of punishment in schools are mostly in the South: Alabama, Arizona, Arkansas, Colorado, Florida, Georgia, Idaho, Indiana, Kansas, Kentucky Louisiana, Mississippi, Missouri, North Carolina, Oklahoma, South Carolina, Tennessee, Texas, and Wyoming. Although some counties within those states forbid it.

But the weirdest thing? Even if you sign a form saying you are opting OUT of allowing your kid to get spanked in class, it still could happen. An education reporter said that there's not much you can do against a school or teacher that spanks your kid even if you didn't check the box allowing it.

There is scant evidence that corporal punishment teaches your child to behave any better than other methods. But for me, the thing that makes this so egregious is that it would happen in front of other children in class. Spankings don't come with a lot of physical force -- and if they DID, would you want some stranger possibly injuring your child? Spankings are mostly about humiliation. And there's so many more ways to humiliate a kid than using physical force.

I'll always remember back-talking a teacher when I was about 12. His voice boomeranged off the walls as he yelled at me to get out of class and stand in the hallway. As I stood there, quite embarrassed and scared, classes began to let out, and every single kid who passed me in the hallway smirked and laughed at me. It happened decades ago and yet I remember it like yesterday. Absolutely NO physical punishment required! I didn't do much back-talking after that.

Do you believe teachers should be able to physically punish your children? Should it be allowed in schools at all?

by on Sep. 19, 2013 at 9:03 AM
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crwspringer
by Platinum Member on Sep. 19, 2013 at 9:12 AM
When I was growing up a teacher was allowed to hit a child's hand with a ruler. And if you did something that the teacher saw fit, you got sent to the principals office and got a wooden paddle on the butt.
I don't really agree with another person giving that kind of discipline to a child. It should be done by the parent.
Now having said that. I don't spank my daughter. I was physically abused as a child and I think it would be more traumatic to me than do good for her.
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sunpeaches1
by on Sep. 19, 2013 at 9:24 AM
Time out: yes.
Hitting of any form: HELL NO!
If my kid did something that warrants a butt whoopin'...inform me & either myself or their father will supply the butt kickin...
GaleJ
by Silver Member on Sep. 19, 2013 at 11:56 AM
No person should ever be allowed to hit another and that should include parents, in any way, hitting their children. It is long past time that we eliminate this wholly unnecessary form of punishment and demand that children are protected from every form of violence once and for all!
mom4awesomekids
by on Sep. 19, 2013 at 11:59 AM

NO way.

AnnieGoolaheey
by Member on Sep. 19, 2013 at 12:02 PM

Hell.No.  When we lived in GA they used it at the school my kids went to.  It bugged me.  I opted out and it was never done to my children.  

CrystalYaris
by Platinum Member on Sep. 19, 2013 at 12:08 PM

When I changed schools in 8th grade, they had a permission slip for paddling. Mom didn't sign it because she didn't believe in spanking after a certain age

janotak
by Member on Sep. 19, 2013 at 12:30 PM

NO NO AND NO WHAT IS GOING ON.....

Wicked.Jester
by on Sep. 19, 2013 at 12:34 PM

Not unless they want to be physically punished themselves by me.


RADmomma
by on Sep. 23, 2013 at 5:58 AM
I don't hit my children. There's no way I would allow someone else to do so. If it was done against my wish there would be some serious issues.
lbramlett29
by on Sep. 23, 2013 at 6:01 AM

I'm trying to find document statement saying it is illegal to take child ut of state. I live in Washington. Can somone help with finding this document?

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