I saw this question today and up until now I can't decide right at this moment on an answer.. What about you?
I still have a problem with that question and to this day i can't answer it for myself. I have been told that being hurt by different people has made it hard for me to forgive/forget and even trust. I am working on it and it will take time.
it should be easier to forgive. i don't hold grudges. i forgive and can admitt when i am wrong. the bible says to to your brother and speak to him about what is the problem and solve it. that can't always be done these days, unfortunately. the, old saying you can forgive. but can not forget. then its if you can't forget than forgiveing has lost its meaning. i forgive, try to forget, let things go and move on....peace...rainbowsky
forgivness is mostly easy, i suppose for me. i have to soul search and really think about it so i can let it go so im not carrying around a bunch of negativity and anger and hurt.
forgeting though, no because one i dont get amnesia when i forgive and two, i learn mistakes and when someone i care about breaks my trust, it hurts me. i value character in a person and things like integrity, honasty and loyalty are very important to me so if those things are not respected i might forgive them but i wont make the same mistakes. but i will give someone a second chance to redeem themselves.
when it comes to someone trying to hurt my kids or someone i love, family, and friends. well thats a whole other level that someone better not dare cross. im a strong person and while i may be forgiving, im not so forgiving or forgetful when it comes down for those i love. im protective.
Resentments are deadly. Those who anger you, control you. I do what I have to do for my myself, thus my family. Yesterday is history, tomorrow's a mystery, today is a gift. It's not worth my health or my family's health to dwell on what happened in the past. For me there is no choice but to move forward.
For me I can forgive. .. but forget... nope that takes a while to earn that trust back.
I will TRULY forgive you and let go but forget and let it happen again... Uh, I don't think so.
For me it's MUCH easier to forgive. I have a hard time forgetting though.I have forgiven EVERYONE who has done me wrong in my lifetime....but I don't forget things that hurt me so much.
You can always forgive but you never forget, so stop trying to decide.
I never forget.
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