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I recently removed myself from an extremely unhealthy relationship with the father of my two daughters...I'll spare the details but needless to say, it no way shape or form was it a healthy relationship. I should have gotten out of it a long time ago, but I constantly kept trying to make it work for my first daughter, Auriona, and then when I found out I was pregnant again, I tried to make it work for my second daughter, Alivia. I grew up in a single parent home, raised by my father for 16 years of my life. My mother lived on the other side of the country and always put her relationships or herself before me so I never really was as close with her as I wanted to be. Anyways, because I grew up in single parent home (although my childhood was amazing and I wouldn't change a thing about it) I wanted my girls to grow up with mom and dad in the same home...I've only realized that I needed to stop trying to force something to be that was never going to happen. Their father is not ready to grow up and handle his responsibilities and his actions have constantly shown that, but I looked past that and SO many other things to try to make it work for my own sake and for the girls. A few days ago I finally woke up and said enough is enough. After all that happened, I am NEVER going back to him and that feels so good to say. I became so weak minded and gullible while with him, I just let him bring me further and further down...but I deserve to be happy and so do my girls. They deserve the best, and he's not the best for them although he is their father...I'm just proud of myself for finally walking away and not keeping myself down. I have to be at my best for my girls and while with him I was nothing but the opposite, but now I'm finally letting go and moving on and it feels so damn good.

by on Sep. 22, 2013 at 7:02 AM
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mestelle0711
by on Sep. 22, 2013 at 6:58 PM

 

i feel your pain, and it is sad but sometimes the truth sucks ya know...i wish you the best of luck!

Quoting angelicmom1984:

I just did the same this week. Only in it for a year, but he can't seem to get it together.... Sad he probably won't be around for this lo, but he hasn't tried to be there for his others either :/


 

angelicmom1984
by Member on Sep. 22, 2013 at 8:36 PM
Thanks! I think the hardest part right now is that he doesn't get it- all I wanted was for him to get help and he's made no move since Wednesday to do anything. Like I tell everyone though, he's making his choices

Quoting mestelle0711:

 


i feel your pain, and it is sad but sometimes the truth sucks ya know...i wish you the best of luck!


Quoting angelicmom1984:

I just did the same this week. Only in it for a year, but he can't seem to get it together.... Sad he probably won't be around for this lo, but he hasn't tried to be there for his others either :/



 

RADmomma
by on Sep. 22, 2013 at 8:49 PM
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Way to go momma!!!

It might not be easy but you are doing the right thing!!
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