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I really need some advice! I don't know what to do!

Posted by on Sep. 23, 2013 at 7:49 PM
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I have been a single mom of 2 for just over a year now.  My daughter is 9 and has moderate/severe special needs.  My son is 5.  Anyway, a longtime friend of my ex has started getting back into drugs and very recently was arrested for theft. He also may get charged with kidnapping for taking his girlfriend’s daughter without her grandmother’s permission. (The grandmother has custody.) The ex's friend and a friend of his were at the school and were confronted by one of the people he stole from. The guy’s friend pulled out a weapon in front of the elementary students (this is a very tiny school). I told my ex that there is no way I want our children anywhere near the guy. Not with the things he has been doing. They do not need that kind of influence around them.  My ex has known him since high school and introduced us when we first moved to the town they currently live in 10 years ago.

So, my ex assured me that he was “done with that kid” and I didn’t have anything to worry about. When my son called his father tonight, the person in question told my sons father to tell him hello. My kids are supposed to go for their visit this weekend, but I am very uncomfortable about this. I know I have to let them go, especially since their father doesn’t take them often, but I want to make sure the kids are safe. So my questions are, what should I do? Is there anything I can do? Is there a way to keep this guy away from my kids when they are with their father?

Thanks in advance!

by on Sep. 23, 2013 at 7:49 PM
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Wicked.Jester
by on Sep. 23, 2013 at 7:51 PM

Holy white trash hell batman.


krosemartin1984
by on Sep. 23, 2013 at 7:53 PM

Yeah, I know, and it sucks.  I do not want my kids growing up with this.  I try to live drama free and keep them enrolled in positive activities that will help them learn and grow.  Their father is a pile. 

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by Bronze Member on Sep. 23, 2013 at 7:59 PM
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Wow what a mess.  Personally I would not let them go.

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funhappymom
by Silver Member on Sep. 24, 2013 at 9:20 AM
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I would talk to a lawyer. See what options you have. Good luck.


RADmomma
by on Sep. 24, 2013 at 9:54 AM

 theres no way I would let them go.

why cant he come see them at your house

elasmimi
by Platinum Member on Sep. 24, 2013 at 2:37 PM

This sounds like your best option, or call DHS and explain it to them.

Quoting funhappymom:

I would talk to a lawyer. See what options you have. Good luck.




LancesMom
by Ruby Member on Sep. 24, 2013 at 7:52 PM

Talk to a lawyer, I would have visits cancelled or specifically monitored to be sure this friend isn't there!


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