I really need some advice! I don't know what to do!
I have been a single mom of 2 for just over a year now. My daughter is 9 and has moderate/severe special needs. My son is 5. Anyway, a longtime friend of my ex has started getting back into drugs and very recently was arrested for theft. He also may get charged with kidnapping for taking his girlfriend’s daughter without her grandmother’s permission. (The grandmother has custody.) The ex's friend and a friend of his were at the school and were confronted by one of the people he stole from. The guy’s friend pulled out a weapon in front of the elementary students (this is a very tiny school). I told my ex that there is no way I want our children anywhere near the guy. Not with the things he has been doing. They do not need that kind of influence around them. My ex has known him since high school and introduced us when we first moved to the town they currently live in 10 years ago.
So, my ex assured me that he was “done with that kid” and I didn’t have anything to worry about. When my son called his father tonight, the person in question told my sons father to tell him hello. My kids are supposed to go for their visit this weekend, but I am very uncomfortable about this. I know I have to let them go, especially since their father doesn’t take them often, but I want to make sure the kids are safe. So my questions are, what should I do? Is there anything I can do? Is there a way to keep this guy away from my kids when they are with their father?
Thanks in advance!