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my SO says im being a mean \ bad parent...am i??

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so DD who is 7 has found a new game to play...we sit down to dinner and she suddenly has an issue \ problem with whatever veggie happens to be on her plate. now this makes day number 4 of this. in the last 4 days all of the veggies i have served she has eaten 1000 times before with no problem. but suddenly she does not "like" them. i told her fine finish the rest of your dinner, but come bedtime i dont wanna hear a word about your hungry etc. sure enough come bed time its whining and crying about shes hungry etc. I refuse to feed her. its a ploy not to eat her veggies and stay up later. SO says i am being overy mean and should feed her. now, if she ate her dinner like everyone else, and came to me close to bedtime and said she was hungry i would have no problem fixing her a snack. however when you refuse to eat your dinner well you dont get snacks right before bed.

so...am i being "mean"
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by on Oct. 2, 2013 at 7:36 PM
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auntangelofsix
by Silver Member on Oct. 3, 2013 at 1:32 AM
We have the same rule.
Belovedmoonpixi
by Bronze Member on Oct. 3, 2013 at 1:48 AM

hmmm...I´m a mean mommy, I´d probably hand her a plate with the same veggies she refused at dinner!

alexis_06
by on Oct. 3, 2013 at 3:19 AM

 if you dont eat your dinner, ya dont get dessert or a snack...

MessedUpMama
by Bronze Member on Oct. 3, 2013 at 5:37 AM

With our kids, we won't force them to eat. However, if they don't finish their dinner they don't get anything else that night until they have. I keep their serving sizes small so it's not really that hard to finish. There are times when they are just not hungry.

Bajanmama
by Member on Oct. 3, 2013 at 7:51 AM

Hide the veggies or mix them in the food in such a way she can't pick them out. My kids love macaroni pie and sometimes I will grate carrots into the cheese sauce and they eat everything, no question. Or the veg could all be mixed in the blender and stirred into the food. 

Barbi-Sue-2
by on Oct. 3, 2013 at 8:19 AM
Its ok to call their numbet and not allow her to manipulate you. If you nip it in the bud now, bekieve me it will make things better in the long run.
lovelove211
by Silver Member on Oct. 3, 2013 at 8:21 AM
Nope. My dd did that a few months back. After a week of it I chased her around the house with her dinner plate, still refused it. She ended up with a yoghurt. After that she ate what was given to her
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fatcat0908
by Platinum Member on Oct. 3, 2013 at 8:22 AM
I never make my clean their plate because IMO that leads to over eating. However, if they refuse to eat something I know they like (or don't mind) the options are very limited on snacks later.
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mysticatgal
by Member on Oct. 3, 2013 at 9:17 AM
I'm sure this was said but fix her a snack of veggies. Tell her that's what she will be offered until she eats the veggies served with dinner.
Wicked.Jester
by on Oct. 3, 2013 at 9:43 AM
1 mom liked this

Look at how spoiled kids are today.  Old school had it right.

Quoting caligirl7613:

glad someone agrees with me. he says i am too "old school" and take after my mom too much when parenting. that no one parents "that" way anymore


Quoting raczac:

No we do the same thing with oyr boys they are almost 7 and 8.


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