son and daughter-in-law having marital problems
Hi, I'm new here. I'm not sure how this site works, but I'll give it a try. I just need someone to talk to, I guess. My son and his wife of 1 1/2 years are having a lot of problems. She wants to move out with their 4 month old baby. They have gone to counseling but she is convinced it's not working and she won't even try. I have suggested they see their pastor but she won't do this either. She says he's "changed" well, people change when they get married and have a baby, it's called life. She's paranoid because they have friends that are getting divorced and so she thinks they will too. He is just tired of banging his head against the wall. He knows he's done things wrong, he admits it. She will not admit she's done anything wrong, it's all on him. He's just very unhappy. I find myself (very guiltily) wishing that my granddaughter hadn't been born. I love her to pieces but this is not what you want for your grandchildren. I don't see how this is going to work out. I know I can't fix it, but he confides in me, and I think he needs someone to talk to. I don't really try to tell him what to do, I just listen and support him. Of course I take his side, but I also tell him what he's doing wrong. What is he supposed to do if she isn't even willing to try? Anyone else have adult children that have gone through something like this? I am just heartbroken for my son and my granddaughter. I have another son getting married and it's hard to get excited about that wedding when this is happening. I'm just sick about this. Thanks for reading.