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Wedding Planning Questions

Posted by on Oct. 16, 2013 at 7:34 PM
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My oldest will be getting married next October and I have several questions.  As I think of them I will post them.

First, what is the point of engagement pictures?  Who should pay for them?


Second, do the number of bridesmaids have to equal the number of groomsmen?


Third (and final for now), who pays for the "Save the Dates"?

by on Oct. 16, 2013 at 7:34 PM
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lucky2Beeme
by Platinum Member on Oct. 16, 2013 at 7:43 PM

My son got married 3 yrs ago. I never heard of getting engagement pictures before then. Her mom paid for them. The pic used in our local paper I took.  Usually there are the same number of bridemaids and groomsmen. The save the date cards are sent out by her parents OR whoever is paying for the wedding. So they would pay for them. I think they are kind of a waste of money.

mysticatgal
by Member on Oct. 17, 2013 at 8:09 AM
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When I got married a couple years ago, we didn't do engagement pictures because we saw it as an unnecessary expense we couldn't afford. Some people we know did just to have pictures to display there or for save the dates. It's a little nice to have pictures of the couple without the wedding clothes.

We had an odd number of bridesmaids and groomsmen. I had 4 girls that meant the world to me and dh had 5 guys so one girl walked with 2 guys. Otherwise the groomsmen can walk out with the groom and the girls walk alone.

I cant really answer who pays for what because I don't know the rules. My parents helped a little but only bought my dress and flowers. They ended up buying the centerpieces only because it was $30 total. We paid for everything else ourselves. Look into doing save the dates with the people doing invites, it might save some money. Same with a photography package that includes wedding and engagement pictures.

Hope I helped a little. Good luck!
NDADanceMom
by on Oct. 17, 2013 at 8:51 AM
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Many of these things depend on your financial situation as far as who pays.  My brother is getting married next year.  Together he and his bride (no kids for either) make about a half million a year.  For most things they will be paying for themselves.  She comes from a very wealthy family so Im guessing for tradition sake daddy will pay for some things.  My family isnt poor or anything and my mother will be paying for the grooms dinner and all the alcohol at the wedding.  

Extras like engagement photos, save the dates (they got magnets made), makeovers for the bridal party, etc are all being paid for by my brother and his bride.  

No the bridal party doesnt have to be equal men and women but it does look nicer if there are.  My brother has an extra few groomsmen so he is going to use them as escorts instead to seat guests. 

RADmomma
by on Oct. 17, 2013 at 9:42 AM

 our wedding was pretty basic.

We didnt do engagement pictures. We printed our invites ourselves and they same with save the dates.

My parents paid for my wedding... but the entire thing came to less than 3K... including dress, cake and 50 guests.

megrh
by Member on Oct. 17, 2013 at 10:24 AM
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I think traditionally the grooms parents only pay for the rehearsal dinner but my mom bought the cakes for both my brothers too. Everything else is brides parents or the couple. We did engagement pics cause we hadn't had photos together yet and for wedding announcements in the papers. We had even numbers of bridesmaids and groomsmen mainly cause I didn't want a lot of lopsided photos :) so DH matched my numbers.
elm498
by on Oct. 17, 2013 at 2:19 PM

I think we will print the invitations ourselves.  With all the technology it is easier and much nicer to personalize them the exact way she wants.

A sales rep. at Shutterfly told my daughter how to get 50 free prints (by joining Shutterfly) and turn them into save the date announcements, so that will save us money.

We are in no way well off; we will be doing as much as we can ourselves.  I found a very useful list of who pays for what at The Knot and it seems the groom's parents pay for things for which I thought was our responsibility.  With that said, I am going to ask them to help out since he is their only child and they have the extra cash.

Hadadat
by on Oct. 17, 2013 at 2:20 PM
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Bridal parties don't have to be equal. But a lot of people like to keep it the same. it's not necessary though.

 

elm498
by on Oct. 17, 2013 at 2:25 PM
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Yep, I found the answer to that question at The Knot too.  That web site is AMAZING and addicting like Pinterest!!!!!!

Quoting Hadadat:

Bridal parties don't have to be equal. But a lot of people like to keep it the same. it's not necessary though.


redbutterfly666
by Silver Member on Oct. 17, 2013 at 2:28 PM

we didnt have any of that so heres a bump

Hadadat
by on Oct. 17, 2013 at 2:28 PM
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The Knot is great for tips. And so is Wedding Wire. I used that to plan my whole wedding this past June. It made it easy and lots of great reviews to help you pick out vendors.


Quoting elm498:

Yep, I found the answer to that question at The Knot too.  That web site is AMAZING and addicting like Pinterest!!!!!!

Quoting Hadadat:

Bridal parties don't have to be equal. But a lot of people like to keep it the same. it's not necessary though.



 

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