Does it bother you for your kids to hear or say "Oh my God?"
I know (I hope!) that if you say âoh my G-dâ in front of my kids, youâre not intending to offend me, so I thought Iâd drop you a note to let you know how much Iâd appreciate it if you kept that phrase to yourself.
It has become such common vernacular that youâre probably unaware that there are still fuddy-duddies like me that consider it to be blasphemous. Now Iâm all for equal rights and freedom of religion and all that jazz, but Iâm also for not belittling anyone elseâs faith, which is exactly what happens when people call on the Lordâs name in vain -- even unintentionally.
This is one of those tricky ones -- not obviously bad like that F-bomb, and not as innocuous as âfiddlesticks,â and then of course you throw in the religious aspect of it and all of a sudden you have yourself a contentious issue.
I just wanted to let yâall know that every time you say âOh my G-dâ in front of my kids, a mini internal battle takes place in my head. The do I say something or not battle.
If someone says a four-letter word in front of my kids, the response is usually a hand clapped over their own mouth with a rushed, âIâm so sorry -- I forgot she was there!â or âIâm sorry -- it just slipped out!â
But itâs hard when someone says something they donât realize is offensive to you. How do you handle it? Do you let it slide? Do you mention it right away? Will they think youâre a prude? Will you care? What if you slip up and say it sometimes -- will you be a hypocrite if you ask others not to?
Like anything in parenting, there isnât an easy answer in my book. Because I view the flippant invoking of Godâs name as blaspheme, I want to do the right thing by Him. At the same time, I donât want to come off as a high-and-mighty righteous biotch either. I donât feel like God put me on the planet to go around correcting everyone. Then again -- I donât want my kids to think this isnât a big deal.
See? Battle in my brain.
So in the end, I talk to my kids about why we donât say it unless we really mean it, and also that not everyone believes the way that we do. I tell them everyone has different ideas about life and spirituality, and very rarely do people actually intend to be offensive. And that itâs more than ok to say to someone, âHey, do you mind saying âoh my goshâ instead of the other one around me? It makes me feel uncomfortable.â
In that spirit, this is to all the people that say âoh my G-dâ around my kids: Would you mind saying âoh my goshâ instead? Iâd really appreciate it.
How do you view the phrase âoh my G-dâ? Is it rude or just slang? Do you care if your kids hear or say it?