Now, we are blessed to have my MIL live in the same town and want to watch them (oftentimes she calls to invite them). My parents live 1 1/2 hours away, but they are still involved. And I have let them go to friends' houses (not overnight yet, but that has to do with bedwetting issues). I need that time to recharge. DH and I need the time to reconnect. I can understand not having people to watch them or not being able to afford a sitter. Most of our dates are free or very cheap, lol. That's a legitimate excuse. But not letting them go and/or feeling guilty for getting a small break isn't healthy, IMHO. I have one friend who got out for a couple of hours and whose husband was calling her to come home. she wrote on Facebook later that evening that she felt guilty for having left in the first place. I have another friend whose husband and she haven't had a date in over a year. and I know for a fact that she has friends and family around who would watch the kids. I just don't get it. my kids and I need a break from each other now and then to maintain our sanity lol.