Hi I am new to the group. I am stay at home with 5 kids. 2 that belong to me and 3step kids. we have 50/50 custody of my step kids. I see my step kids everyday at school when I am dropping my two off. Our two youngest girls are the same age and in the same kindergarten class. They sit next to each other. My stepdaughter has been a handful since the day I met her. We have been married for 8 months now. In the past 3 months her behavior is getting worse and worse. Nothing my husband as punishment seems to phase her. She doesn't care anymore. She is very disrespectful to me, she is always in trouble in class, she is always hitting classmates, siblings, and pets, and so on.
My husband has talked to her mother about the daughters behavior in general and she tells him she sees nothing wrong with how she is behaving and "She is a kid, it is her right to act crazy and hit someone now and again. She shouldnt have to be well behaved."
We are having a lot of issues with entitlement issues with his 3 kids. They think they should get anything they deserve. And when they dont get their way they throw fits, screaming, crying, laying on the floor. (ages 10, 7, and 5) saying they want to go to moms house because she will let them have it. This is very frustrating as well.
Today I was helping my daughter get started on her morning work, my stepdaughter was sitting there refusing to do her work so her mom just left the room like every morning. So I was trying to get her motivated to get work done. My stepdaughter tells me " My mom ordered me books from the book order! and L didnt get any! HAha!" I told how exciting now lets get our work done. Then she goes on to tell me " My mom is gonna spend a whole bunch of money on our christmas presents, so we are gonna better presents at her house!" I was pissed! It has nothing at all to do with what they will get over there. it's how ungrateful she is.
My husband wont be home for a few more hours I just wanted to see if anyone had any suggestions on how to handle this situation because its getting really outta control. And everything we have tried isnt working at this point I am temped to return her gifts we have bought and wrap lumps of coal.