Sorry, this is a bit of a rant... Ok. So my husband is a hardworking man who makes sure that the bills are paid. However, he stretches himself too far. He gives everything to his jobs and I'm getting left behind. Here's the thing, we have a 17 month and are expecting our second baby in February 2014. I'm already extremely uncomfortable, and having anxiety/depression issues. When I first found out we were expecting, I said I would need his help with the 17 month old. "sure, no problem" BULLSH*T! I work as as teacher (so does he) so I'm not home all day doing nothing, I get home and I'm exhausted. I know he's tired but he's the first one to take a shower or get a nap in while I handle our son. I've tried talking to him, but he tells me im crazy and makes the most aggravating arguments. I have been trying so hard to manage the house work by myself, along with making him and our son dinner, bathing our son, cleaning up after dinner, etc. I feel so unappreciated. He acts more like my dad than my husband, reminding me that I need to do laundry or that the house is a wreck. I ask if he can wait until the morning and he gets all flustered and makes a fuss andt he'll take care of it. He's making me feel worthless and like a lazy child. He doesn't seem to realize that being pregnant, working full time and taking care of a toddler is taking a lot out of me and I need more emotional support. He has absolutely no empathy. He got livid mad with me when I got the epidural with my son because he thought I was exaggerating my pain level. He just doesn't get it and I'm emotionally beat down. I can't talk to him. It turns into a nasty fight. I don't know what to do. He won't go to counseling because he thinks he'll be blamed for all our problems and he thinks it's all me. I'm not perfect and there are days I don't feel like doing anything, but he's convinced he has more of a right to be tired than I do.
on Nov. 22, 2013 at 7:47 PM