I have 6 kids. 3 I gave birth to and 3 I was blessed with through marriage all ranging from age 10 to 17. They have all lived with my husband and I since we married. See..the thing is in my situation is that BM was in and out in the beginning and then went MIA for 5 years (really 7 but she saw them three Times and we had to put supervised visits due to things that happened during the last visit). She was an addict and is now clean. (No tests yet but by her appearance and attitude she seems to be.) I have SO MANY reasons to hate her and so many reasons not to trust her. The kids have been in therapy due to the depression and abandonment. It has been a long road. Things were starting to look up and Well now she is back. One kid even cried to me when she found out she had to see her BM and said she couldn't deal with being left again. The court has her taking baby steps to reintroduce herself to the kids. I want to have a civil relationship with her, which we are civil but in my head I feel like I just want to lose it every time I have to deal with her of course I don't. So I guess my problem is in my heart I am their mom and she is the "intruder" or maybe the SM. We are civil but I guess I just hate that I have to share my kids now. How can I just accept that she is back? The kids seem to be doing better at it than me. None of us trust her yet and all of us have our guard up but I have to be the role model and let them know it's ok but how can I convince myself that it will be?
on Dec. 9, 2013 at 10:29 PM