She immediately went out and ordered invites that cost $65, and began planning the valentine theme, colors, etc. I offered to make the Individual heart shaped cakes she asked for, and she said no, they would be purchased. I asked what kind of food she would like to have, and she had a caterer. Then a florist. Someone's doing decorations, Now someone is bringing cupcakes. It all sounded pretty fancy to me (and I haven't offered to pay for any of this), so I asked her if our home was really going to be suitable, maybe she wanted a different venue for what she had in mind?? I explained that as I understood it, showers were usually given by friends/family to welcome a new life into the world and provide part of the layette for the new mother - NOT as a status symbol. Of course, I said this as gently as i could, remembering the probably 60+ baby showers I've had/attended that have been fun, silly, and fairly low key.
She replied that "people spend thousands on baby showers". She has planned every inch of it herself and is delegating duties to different friends. It's at a tea shop now, with different types of tea, little tea sandwiches, hours d'oveures.......she texted me last night and wondered if I could come and help her address the invitations, on which she "accidently wasted $65 on" because she had to reorder ones with the restaurant address instead of our home address......and I was at an event with another child out of town, so I wasn't able to assist.
Guess I've just not heard of a mother totally arranging their own baby shower, nor such a fancy one, lol. And why would she ask me to host it, then not have me doing anything??? Is this the way it's done now?