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Would you forgive your SO... *edit*

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If he cheated on you?

My boyfriend confessed to cheating on me yesterday. We have a 2 year old little girl together. I have no clue what to do right now, just like in a state of shock right now. His reason was, "I love being with you, but the sex isn't enjoyable." I'm just so torn, part of me wants to give him another chance, and the other part is disgusted every time I see him.

**Edit** I decided to forgive him, and we are taking it slow. He has drastically chranged and making strides to redeem himself. This is his last chance and of he does it again, I am done. Thank you all for the kind words.
by on Jan. 9, 2014 at 9:35 PM
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marmie41
by Silver Member on Jan. 9, 2014 at 10:24 PM
Dh and I both agreed that cheating was a total deal breaker for us both. So yes I would leave dh if he ever cheated.
djenesis81
by on Jan. 9, 2014 at 11:27 PM


Quoting lesalmi: While I may have forgiven cheating... I wouldn't forgive that comment. If it's not enjoyable he will continue to do it.

Exactly!  Cheating can be forgiven depending on the situation, but if he is honest with you and says he doesn't enjoy sex with you then he will just cheat again and again.  You will either have to find out what isn't enjoyable and work on it or if it can't be worked on then consider it over...and honestly, with him making a comment like that, I don't think I could ever forget or forgive that.

TheSilence
by Member on Jan. 9, 2014 at 11:29 PM
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Nope. If he could have sex with another woman it means that he doesn't love me. If he loved me he would never hurt me that way.
I am sorry your boyfriend betrayed you that way!
Angelicembrace
by Gold Member on Jan. 9, 2014 at 11:30 PM
My df emotionally cheated, and there's a lot more to it than that. To be honest, I don't think I've fully forgiven him, sometimes I forget..but then it hits me like a ton of bricks. It sucks.

So in your situation, it'd be bye bye dh. I personally don't think I could handle it. And...*hugs* I'm sorry :(
redbutterfly666
by Silver Member on Jan. 9, 2014 at 11:31 PM

nope never

Kaya529
by Bronze Member on Jan. 9, 2014 at 11:32 PM
As long as he was honest and came to me I would. I am different though and don't get jealous at all and would be able to just move on. If you are not that way than maybe moving on may be a better idea.
TheSilence
by Member on Jan. 9, 2014 at 11:34 PM
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Don't think that. People who cheat are very selfish and if course they are never responsible for their own actions. He is trying to put the blame on you so you feel like it was your fault that he had sex with someone else.
You didn't make him do anything. If something was wrong he was fully capable of coming to you.
That is a pathetic excuse and the fact that he is trying to guilt you into accepting it by making it your fault means that he will continue to cheat.
You deserve someone who will treat you well and take responsibility for their own actions.

Quoting .lovemybebes.: How long does this feeling last? I just can't stop crying. :( I feel if I was better at certain things, he wouldn't feel the need to have cheated.
Franbuessa
by on Jan. 9, 2014 at 11:38 PM
If it was an emotional cheating, I don't think I could.
Sorry for your heartache. Did he tell you on his own or were you suspicious and questioned him?
.lovemybebes.
by Bronze Member on Jan. 10, 2014 at 12:43 AM
Just in his actions, so I asked.

Quoting Franbuessa: If it was an emotional cheating, I don't think I could.

Sorry for your heartache. Did he tell you on his own or were you suspicious and questioned him?
Franbuessa
by on Jan. 10, 2014 at 12:48 AM
Wow, for him to just be so honest, I'd be upset. His reasons were very selfish. The fact that he blamed it on you is cruel.

Quoting .lovemybebes.: Just in his actions, so I asked.



Quoting Franbuessa: If it was an emotional cheating, I don't think I could.


Sorry for your heartache. Did he tell you on his own or were you suspicious and questioned him?
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