I find myself getting annoyed at her,and I'm not certain I should be.I've talked about my 17 year old's best friend before. His name is *Hunter* and I feel sorry for him at times.
His father ran off with some girl and emptied the joint bank account.Thus leaving *Hunter's mom with 3 kids (ages: 17,13,6) and no money.*Stephanie had a full time job but,is struggling bad. So much so that she can't afford new shoes for her kids and they repoed her truck last month. To make matters worse,she lost her job a couple of weeks ago.So,now she sits at home during the day.
Anyhow,my problem is this: While Stephanie was at work *Hunter stayed home with his baby sister,this I see no problem with.She had to be able to depend on her oldest for help because there just was NO ONE else. She had to work so she could feed/clothe them...But,she isn't working anymore.And *Hunter still has to stay home with his baby sister (even if his mom is just taking a nap,in the same house).Now,I'm starting to think she is just taking advantage of him. It bothers me because he is a really sweet kid,he has had to grow up too fast,with too much responsibility and I know he is starting to resent *Nicole (6 year old sis).Example of this: We took our kids to New Orleans to the Audobon Zoo and we invited *Hunter. *Stephanie said he could go if he found a babysitter for *Nicole...(Stephanie was going to be home all day).Because of how disappointed he was we offered to take *Nicole also. *Hunter begged us to PLEASE NOT bring his baby sister,he swore he would find someone to take care of her. "I just want to have fun today" (what he said to me)
I'm hoping that I'm wrong and *Stephanie is just depressed,I'm hoping maybe she'll pull herself back up soon.I don't know if I should try to make her a friend and help that way or just leave well enough alone?! We (as a family)love *Hunter and I don't like to see him hurting....No point to this post really,sort of thinking out loud. I would really like to help them.
(Before anyone asks,*Hannah-the middle child-decided to move in with her father,in Oaklahoma.It's why she doesn't "get" to help watching *Nicole)
P.s. To all of you saying/fixing to say I shouldn't judge because I'm not in her shoes---I am not judging.I just don't want it to be "too little,too late" when Steph finally realizes how sad *Hunter has been the last month or so.
Thought for the day :
Women are angels and when someone breaks our wings we simply continue to fly...on a broomstick. We are flexible that way.