Join the Meeting Place for Moms!
Talk to other moms, share advice, and have fun!

(minimum 6 characters)

The CafeMom Newcomers Club The CafeMom Newcomers Club

Should dads be allowed to take their little girls into the women's bathroom?

Posted by on Jan. 30, 2014 at 9:48 AM
  • 67 Replies


There's a Reason Why All Dads Should Be Allowed to Use the Women's Restroom


by Corey Levitan

Three options exist for me when my daughter needs changing, the car is too far, and there is no family bathroom. They include: (1) walking her by a bank of dangling adult penises, only to discover there's no changing table anyway; (2) risking arrest by entering a women's room myself; or (3) assigning a stranger to escort her inside, based on the theory that having female body parts makes one entirely trustworthy.

I have perfected the male women's room entrance. Without going inside, I push open the inner door to announce, "Is anyone in here? It's a dad with his little girl!"

Story time at the library last week began like many of these missions. A high-pitched voice answered my announcement: "Just a minute!"

No problem. Skylar and I waited for the occupant to exit. A woman smiled, indicating not only appreciation that I inquired, but sympathy with my quagmire. Then we entered to do our business. (By the way, a place that's forbidden for your entire earthly existence allows some misperceptions to build up. And your bathrooms are not nicer than ours. They're only cleaner and have vending machines.)

As most of you are aware, the point of no diaper-changing return occurs after the old vessel is unfastened to reveal its biological wonders. There is no sticking something like this back on a person that you love, no matter the emergency. So, for at least four more minutes, you are potty-committed.

Of course, the second woman we didn't notice picked this precise moment to exit her stall, buttoning her skirt and leering at me as though I had just entered her bedroom window in a ski mask. What transpired next was a Seinfeldian conversation in which I noted that "Just a minute!" is a limit-one-per-customer response good only for the utterer, and the woman mentioned something about alerting security.

Luckily, my daughter walks fast.

How would you react if you saw a man with his little girl in the women's bathroom?

by on Jan. 30, 2014 at 9:48 AM
Add your quick reply below:
You must be a member to reply to this post.
Replies (1-10):
Bmat
by Ruby Member on Jan. 30, 2014 at 10:02 AM
2 moms liked this

As long as he announced his intention to enter, and had baby in hand, I'd probably be sympathetic.

I've never noticed women buttoning their skirts (??) after leaving the stall, this sounds like more of a man thing. As far as I know, women are all dressed and fastened before they leave.

Jaxsonsmama2009
by Silver Member on Jan. 30, 2014 at 10:05 AM
2 moms liked this
It wouldn't bother me at all. I hope family bathrooms become more popular. Our local mall has one and it's ALWAYS full.
fullxbusymom
by Silver Member on Jan. 30, 2014 at 10:08 AM

I would rather see a dad simply do the same thing and take them in the men's bathroom but I wouldn't say anything if they went into the woman's room either if they needed a diaper changing station.

mom2the.rescue
by Bronze Member on Jan. 30, 2014 at 12:10 PM

By the way, a place that's forbidden for your entire earthly existence allows some misperceptions to build up. And your bathrooms are not nicer than ours. They're only cleaner and have vending machines.

LMAO

I'd wonder why he didn't just find a clean place out of the way somewhere.  I, actually, only used a diaper cleaning station a few times ever, out of 4 babies.  Not only do I find them disgusting, I find them unsafe as well.  But if he announced himself, I'd just think, "oh shit, my dh is going to find a way to be mean to me about this." ugh.

JoshRachelsMAMA
by JRM on Jan. 30, 2014 at 12:11 PM
This

Quoting fullxbusymom:

I would rather see a dad simply do the same thing and take them in the men's bathroom but I wouldn't say anything if they went into the woman's room either if they needed a diaper changing station.

NDADanceMom
by on Jan. 30, 2014 at 12:28 PM
2 moms liked this

no I dont want a man in the ladies room.  with all the prep work he does to get in there.... just do it in the mens room and wait for that to empty out

USARomanceChick
by on Jan. 30, 2014 at 12:29 PM

Good question!

RADmomma
by on Jan. 30, 2014 at 12:57 PM
My dh usually just takes our dd into the men's room. But lately the diaper hanging stations are missing from the men's room & family rooms are not popular around here... Now what?? In the warm weather he will change the baby in the car but its below freezing out now....
LoveMyBug2013
by Member on Jan. 30, 2014 at 1:17 PM

I think more places should be required to have diaper change stations in the men's room.  A library doesn't have it?  Really?  Wow! 

I would probably yell in a second time or ask the first woman if she were alone though.  I do sympathize.  MH has had to come back out with a stinky baby and say "Sorry, I can't do it" (in places we know there is a station in the women's because I've changed him in there before).  We both have had to change him on the disgusting floors.  And we've changed him in the car. 

I wish there were more family restrooms because my guy loves to roll over and crawl off the changing table.  And more than once we have each had to ask someone to watch him while washing hands. 

 

LoveMyBug2013
by Member on Jan. 30, 2014 at 1:19 PM

Another issue/question:  At what point is it NOT okay for a dad to take his daughter into the men's room.  We have gay friends with a little girl and that is going to come up pretty soon--at what point are they going to have to send a child who is not ready to be alone in a public restroom into one because she is too old to be in the men's room?

Add your quick reply below:
You must be a member to reply to this post.
Join the Meeting Place for Moms!
Talk to other moms, share advice, and have fun!

(minimum 6 characters)