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my 14 y/o son fondled another 14 y/o boy with a girl present....and recorded it

Posted by on Feb. 2, 2014 at 7:43 AM
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My live-in b/f and I each have 14 y/o old boys, my son's cell is currently taken away and I was looking at his history and pics yesterday and saw a video of the boys in their room (very small house, they share a room) with a 15 y/o girl who was over. All was very normal if you just heard the audio, but the video showed my son rubbing bf's son's penis through a blanket on and off during the video. The girl was sitting on the floor, bf's son was looking at his cell, looking at the girl when she talked, all totally acting like nothing was going on. We have not talked to them yet, my son comes over from his dad's today. Everyone seemed to be aware of being taped but that is the first thing we will be addressing. The casualness of it is very disturbing. The girl acted just as chill about it as the boys did. My bf assures me this is fairly normal boy behavior, and I know kids record themselves and take selfies all the time, but to have the girl present is not okay. We will definitely impose a no closed door rule for when girls are around. Any advice?
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momdoes
by Platinum Member on Feb. 2, 2014 at 7:58 AM

I honestly do not know what to say.

From what I read, you are taking the appropiate precautins, gonna have a serious talk and he has no phone now. I am not certain what kind of advice you want?

bubble_guts
by Member on Feb. 2, 2014 at 7:59 AM
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He thinks it's normal that a boy is stroking a boy in front of a girl?
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yecatsme
by Member on Feb. 2, 2014 at 8:00 AM
Just really feel like I was hit by a train, wondering what others would do/think.
yecatsme
by Member on Feb. 2, 2014 at 8:02 AM
My b/f doesn't think it's normal that that occurred in front of a girl, but normal boy behavior, sorry, I didn't make that clear.
mama_l
by Silver Member on Feb. 2, 2014 at 8:06 AM
Normal boy behavior is to masturbate your brother / person who lives with you as a brother?
yecatsme
by Member on Feb. 2, 2014 at 8:13 AM
He thinks it's normal for boys to experiment, explore.
msjaxon
by Platinum Member on Feb. 2, 2014 at 8:17 AM
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That is NOT normal boy behavior to masturbate each other WITH or WITHOUT A GIRL PRESENT. You need to have a serious talk with your son, that is child pornography and you should probably break up with the boyfriend.
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JuneCleaver256
by Member on Feb. 2, 2014 at 8:23 AM
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Lol yeah teenagers exploring their sexuality is NOT NORMAL. Gimme a break. Its a little weird but dedinatly normal. The only talk you should have with this poor kid is the importance of safe sex. This was not his brother, do you people even read? Maybe try supervising him more and insist on an open door rule.
yecatsme
by Member on Feb. 2, 2014 at 8:24 AM
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Not being a boy I don't really know what boys do, I do know that sex is on their brains more than not. Bf's main concern is whether or not everyone knew this was recorded, the implications of that recording getting into the wrong hands, making sure the girl was not trapped there, that she was free to walk out, etc.
tairakittie
by Platinum Member on Feb. 2, 2014 at 8:25 AM
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Well, I guess it is.normal curiousity BUT its not exactly normal to rub on your half brother while a girl watches... thats... weird.
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