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Freaking Out!

Posted by on Feb. 5, 2014 at 7:50 PM
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  I have had panic and anxiety attacks that started REALLY bad back in 2007 after the birth of my first child. It was considered a 'postpartum anxiety disorder' that went years raging without proper help. My life seemed to get better by 2011 when I moved many states away back where my family lived, that was until I had a miscarriage in June 2012. The panic, anxiety, and depression were so bad that I had to seek help again, and surprisingly I finally felt better. The last time I had a panic attack was in June 2012, until I found out 8 weeks ago that I am expecting again. This baby was completely unplanned, but it is not a bad thing. My husband and I were planning on having another child one day, we just had no idea it would be now. So here I am 12 weeks along, and FREAKING OUT. It isn't so much over any particular thing, it more like uncontrollable pregnancy hormones making me feel as if I am going crazy. I feel almost like I am in a 'fog' and I can not concentrate on anything including my current college courses or driving. I can't sleep, eat, or do anythingother than cry. It was REALLY bad in December but eased up enough for me to feel somewhat 'normal' for a few weeks in January, but now I feel five times worse than before. I feel like I am no longer in control of my life and like any minute I am just gonna flip. I have no harmful thoughts or anything like that, I just feel so helpless. My husband works all of the time and I really don't have anyone besides my 6 year old to hang out with, and I don't want her to see me like this. I don't have insurance to see a Psychiatrist or a Psychologist, I only have a OBGYN who thankfully is seeing me with a sliding scale fee system. I was told I could take the bare minimum of a Benzodiazapine I have been taking on-and-off for the last few years when my attacks hit, but it is not completely safe for pregnancy, at least in animals. I was told the benefits of the medication to me outweighed the risks to my unborn child, but even when I work up the nerve to take it, it doesn't help, not even a little. I can't be on anything else because of the fetal risks and I have a sensitivity to SSRI anti-depressants. I have done so much research on panic and anxiety, medication alternatives, and tried almost every relaxation technique ever thought up without any positive results. I feel absolutely horrible, and that's putting it mildly. I also have this tingling/burning sensation that starts in the back of my head and runs down my neck. Is this normal? I don't know how much longer I can stand this with the racing heart, shaking, lack of appetite, and the inability to sleep. Any and all words of encouragement would be great right now as well as hearing others stories and advice. Thank for reading!

by on Feb. 5, 2014 at 7:50 PM
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by on Feb. 5, 2014 at 8:10 PM


I wish I had great words of wisdom for you, I only want to say I have suffered anxiety and use paxil now. I know you are pregnant and cant use that, I am hoping your doctor is trying to help you. You have to find a good coping remedy, this will sound weird but what ab knitting or sewing something. Just needle and thread and mateial, The concentration on the task may help your anxiety. I am really hoping you find something that can help you. I once sewed my daughters whole college team bean bags to heat up for sore muscles!! Odd, I know but was very theraputic:) Good Luck, I hope to hear from you again


by Emerald Member on Feb. 5, 2014 at 10:27 PM

Have you tried walking around the block where you live?  For me, i have a mantra of things i repeat to myself to help the anxiety.  Aromatherapy may be an option if you havent tried that.   I have heard that acupuncture as well can help but not sure how safe that is for pregnant people.

by on Feb. 5, 2014 at 11:03 PM
I know you said you don't have insurance but since you are pregnant you should be eligible for a lot of assistance with insurance and medical bills. Make sure you contact your local Family Services Division and ask them to help you find all the options available to you for assistance. Also even if you aren't religious try local churches for any assistance you may need. If you don't belong to a church ask a friend or family member if the church they attend has any programs to assist those in need. I've been through a few very bad anxiety attacks and I know the only thing that ever helped me was making an action plan of everything I could do to try to control the situation. Also remember that if you can't control something, worrying about it won't help at all. If you can control it, what can you do? Once I started keeping small notebooks and pens with me at all times to try to make sense of this stuff I stopped having the episodes. If you've already tried all these things then I am so sorry I couldn't be of more help but I thought I'd try!
by on Feb. 6, 2014 at 11:04 AM
If there is any way you can gather up enough money to see a hypnotist I would recommend it. This way you are not taking medications but this person can redirect your thoughts to make you safe and reasonably calm. Its not a cure all but it definitely could help IMHO. Check around with some of the Psychiatrist and see if there is one that they recommend somewhere in your area. If not check with any local mental hospital that might know the whereabouts of one. I know people in your condition that have used Hypnotism and it was wonderful and they continued after the childbirth and it saved their lives. I can't guarantee it helps everybody but its worth a try and its not any medication that could cause problems to your baby. You need to look at your life in a completely different perspective and this could help you do it. Good Luck and God Bless
by Ruby Member on Feb. 6, 2014 at 11:12 AM

I get really bad anxiety attacks. I wish I knew an answer to help you

by on Feb. 6, 2014 at 12:35 PM
Look up and talk to your doctor about natural remedies for anxiety. There are some vitamins and herbs that work, you just have to check and make sure they are safe to take during pregnancy.
by on Feb. 6, 2014 at 12:38 PM
Medicaid! I went to a psychiatrist and psychologist that specialized in pregnancy. They got me through it with meds and therapy. My daughter is very healthy!
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