I have a question and that is what does a single mother do when she has kids by a guy that loves no one but his kids because he just got married in January 2014 and is asking 4 me back. The story starts out like this: I discovered I was pregnant with my first child in 08 and he says he was a virgin before me but something happened n we split. When I thought he was ready to be a man i let him back into my life in 2010 and picked up where we left off but i got pregnant with my second child. Then his inability to control his anger put him in jail and I was faithful to him but eventually gave up when i realized my suspicions might be real and his aggression barely fixed itself. He lied constantly and flirted with anyone online. I think the only reason he got married is because I showed no more interest in him around that time, I guess he gets more for taxes and he can flirt and cheat and she doesn't care as long as she's with him.(this is what he tells me) I know he sounds like a looser but I dont think I can be with anyone else because he is the one I trusted to have kids with after wanting to settle down. I don't know if he is manipulating me or he is being honest n if he is should I play along then turn him down FLAT after he is able to divorce his wife because he claims she won't divorce him;(clearly she's obsessed) or tell him to hit the road n keep the kids away until he asks for supervised visitation due to his aggression and let him and his awful marriage he talks about be and I move on?. I say this about the kids because he uses the kids as an excuse to get into my pants and now i may have to be the one to bring them to him because his wife says so is what im thinking. His wife has NOTHING but a job, no CAR, HOUSE, and she can't even support him like he wants her to. Maybe I just answered my own question but I don't have girlfriends to talk to. So do I let him down easy so he wont do something like slash my tires or believe that since he couldn't find better than me he wants to come back?..
I would just like to add thanks for the people who didn't BASH me for still having feelings 4 the person I had kids with. I don't want to be with him because the negative outweighs the positive about him but I just wanted everyones take on it. Even if he is telling the truth this once, I know better. I don't want him to leave his wife for me as it may sound like in my post; I just want him to be honest. I repeat I DO NOT want to be with someone like that, parenting alone may be hard at times but i'm not going back there. And as long as people post anonymous on here your opinions probably should be kept to yourself because that usually means your going to act like your perfect but nobody is and what you say is disrespectful. Your mom or guardian must not have taught you the manners of "IF YOU DON'T HAVE ANYTHING NICE TO SAY DON'T SAY IT AT ALL." Last of all, found out their is a word for what he is. SOCIOPATH
on Mar. 17, 2014 at 8:17 PM