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he asked our children what? update at bottom

Ok my ex husband and I have 3 boys together. This year they flew out to spend a week with him for spring break. The boys just flew back home today, well we are cuddling watching a veggie tales movie and our oldest who is 6 tuned to me and said "mommy guess what daddy aasked us"
My reply was "what did daddy ask you?"
Then i could not believe what he said." Daddy asked if we'd be sad if you died"
Really? Are you kidding me?
Then our 5 year old said "daddy asked me too"

Omg I'm furious

for those of you who keep asking why don't I call him I have stated and replies that my ex husband has my phone number blocked and does not reply to text message. I do not have his email address, he does not call to talk to the kids while they are with me. He refuses to communicate with me. The only time he calls his kids or when they are spending one weekend a month with his mother. it is set up in her divorce packet that he sees the kids every other Christmas 1 month forsummer and spring break. I have filed paperwork with the court for contempt for not allowing me to speak to the kids while they are with him I will also be bringing this up in our court hearing. We have been divorced for 3 years now, so it's not like we are in the middle of a custody battle.
by on Mar. 29, 2014 at 5:33 PM
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RyansMommy7507
by Bronze Member on Mar. 29, 2014 at 6:40 PM
He has my calls blocked and refuses to let me talk to the boys when they Are with him. Even tho the court order says he is to let me talk to them 2 times a day while they are with him.

Quoting Senile-felines: I agree!

Quoting withsecond: Wow. I'd be on the phone asking him what made him think that was an okay thing to ask his children. Wtf...
blue_apalt
by Member on Mar. 29, 2014 at 6:48 PM
This. I could have beena totally innocent kid. I wouldn't jump on it until I knew more.

Quoting cmjustice: Maybe it was taken out of context? Did someone pass away? When a kid in Luke's class's mom passed away, I asked him the same thing.
juliem21
by New Member on Mar. 29, 2014 at 7:14 PM
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Me personially i would go back to court since he is breaking the court order, and i would be kind of scaried to find out. My ex asked that, i would text him aswell telling he if he wants to see the kids again we need to have a talk first about some issues because if he has asked that i would want to get to the bottom of it before i allow he to be with them again

Quoting RyansMommy7507: Ok my ex husband and I have 3 boys together. This year they flew out to spend a week with him for spring break. The boys just flew back home today, well we are cuddling watching a veggie tales movie and our oldest who is 6 tuned to me and said "mommy guess what daddy aasked us"
My reply was "what did daddy ask you?"
Then i could not believe what he said." Daddy asked if we'd be sad if you died"
Really? Are you kidding me?
Then our 5 year old said "daddy asked me too"

Omg I'm furious
ninipanini
by Ruby Member on Mar. 30, 2014 at 1:01 PM
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perhaps it's out of context...maybe someone your ex knows died and they said what would happen if you or mom died and he said, "Would you be sad if mom died?"

Sometimes kids repeat just part of a conversation, the part that sticks with them.

When dd or ds mentions something someone said and it seems like a non-sequitor i always ask them what they were saying before they said that.  KWIM?

i would probe to see what the conversation was about leading up to that.

Octobersmom
by on Mar. 31, 2014 at 12:46 AM
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I'll be the extremist but all I can think is he could be planning to hurt you.  He obviously has a lot of animosity towards you so perhaps talk to your lawyer about this.  It's better to be safe than dead, you know?

Quoting RyansMommy7507: He has my calls blocked and refuses to let me talk to the boys when they Are with him. Even tho the court order says he is to let me talk to them 2 times a day while they are with him.
Quoting Senile-felines: I agree!
Quoting withsecond: Wow. I'd be on the phone asking him what made him think that was an okay thing to ask his children. Wtf...


shedevil609
by New Member on Mar. 31, 2014 at 7:44 AM
Creepy. Have you asked him about it?
MandyJ16
by on Mar. 31, 2014 at 8:19 AM
Wow! Did you tell your ex about what he said? If so what did he say about it.
RyansMommy7507
by Bronze Member on Mar. 31, 2014 at 8:53 AM
He won't reply to texts and has my calls blocked. He doesn't even call to talk to the boys.
auntangelofsix
by Silver Member on Mar. 31, 2014 at 9:56 AM
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Omg I would be freaked out.
proudmommy690
by Platinum Member on Mar. 31, 2014 at 9:58 AM
I would be furious.
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